Our little boy is so special, so bright and social and all these great things but his ADHD has really reared it's ugly head now, in first grade. He is officially diagnosis'd and in a collab. classroom with lots of teachers. He gets sensory breaks and special help to keep him focused. I thought I had dotted all the I's and crossed all the T's and this change has me surprised and stumped. I had read about self esteem in kids with ADHD and conduct disorders but my boy was NOT oppositional nor defiant and I thought we were just lucky! But once first grade started he became a different kid. No matter WHAT I say, do, suggest his answer is always the opposite. He argues with me about EVERYTHING and is probably testing me. He is having trouble with a little boy in his class who i'm sure DOES have conduct disorder and the two of them fight. He comes home upset every day, my little happy guy who LOVED kindergarten. Now in first grade he is not as popular as before. He used to have play dates daily but now his friends are all doing Chess and Drama and Reading and doing things after school he cannot do. He is miserable being with me and always wants to see a friend after school. I know i'm all over the place but he doesn't seem to love or like me at all anymore! He is much more a Daddy's boy. But I'm the one who is home and I can't imagine how bad this is going to get when he won't even wash his hands when I ask him to. OH and he also said a few weird things to me (like he wants to set me on fire and then put it out really fast....he seems to almost hate me sometimes. I just have this sneaking suspicion that he is developing a conduct disorder. By the way his ADHD is moderate to severe. Sometimes he seems to want help, he seems to know on some level what is going on is wrong. He is thank god extremely empathetic and sensitive but ugh he's got me worried. He also must always wear a costume, it seems to make him feel safe. We went to a pediatric neurologist for therapy but she was a flake and it's soooo expensive around here. What do you think? What do you suggest? I know this isn't as serious as many of you but watching him change....afraid it will get worse. *Thank you for keeping up with my ADHD brain.