Hopingforthe best
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Its unreal and this a long post, so i apologise in advance. Apparently, he was supposed to report to the probation officer last thursday and according to difficult child, he was sick so he called the po to say he would not be able to meet with him. This afternoon around 3.00pm et, i was getting into my car to go out grocery shopping when i saw a police car driving up our street and slow down near my house and park. He approached my driveway and asked whether i knew difficult child, and who i was to him. My heart was beating fast because i didn't know what he was going to tell me and imagined the worst kind of scenarios.
Anyway, he said he had a warrant for difficult child issued by the probation officer. I told him i didn't know where he was and invited him to come to the entrance of the house to talk, i wanted to avoid the neigbours' whispers. He was very kind and sympathetic and told me to tell difficult child to report to probation office as soon as i got hold of him and also told me if there is anything he could do to help difficult child to let him know and left me his cell phone number.
When i called my son, he wouldn't pick up so i checked the phone records to see who difficult child was talking to more this morning - a former friend he went to school with picked up and told me difficult child was out of town in New York, 600 miles from where we live. So i asked her to call difficult child and ask him to call me. Three hours later, thats when he strolled into the house smiling with no concern or care in the world to tell me that i worry too much and that it's all a misunderstand because he talked to the po last week and he agreed difficult child can go see him thursday.
He hasn't payed the probation fee, so that could be the reason for the warrant, but i don't know. I would have helped him with the money but since he has been staying with the girlfriend, i didn't bother ask. The police officer had told me he was going to delay taking difficult child in until tommorrow so he could get a chance to report to his po and explain himself and the po would go from there, either accept his reasons or have him appear before a judge. So i am waiting to hear what will happen when he goes.
This rollercoaster ride with these kids is too much. Just when you think you are detaching, something pulls you back. However, i had a long talk with his lawyer who has been very helpful trying to talk sense into difficult child and he helped me realize that i have really tried my best to help this kid and now it's up to him. Strangely, i am not worried as i would be and i am prepared for the outcome and if it's jail, then be it.
Anyway, he said he had a warrant for difficult child issued by the probation officer. I told him i didn't know where he was and invited him to come to the entrance of the house to talk, i wanted to avoid the neigbours' whispers. He was very kind and sympathetic and told me to tell difficult child to report to probation office as soon as i got hold of him and also told me if there is anything he could do to help difficult child to let him know and left me his cell phone number.
When i called my son, he wouldn't pick up so i checked the phone records to see who difficult child was talking to more this morning - a former friend he went to school with picked up and told me difficult child was out of town in New York, 600 miles from where we live. So i asked her to call difficult child and ask him to call me. Three hours later, thats when he strolled into the house smiling with no concern or care in the world to tell me that i worry too much and that it's all a misunderstand because he talked to the po last week and he agreed difficult child can go see him thursday.
He hasn't payed the probation fee, so that could be the reason for the warrant, but i don't know. I would have helped him with the money but since he has been staying with the girlfriend, i didn't bother ask. The police officer had told me he was going to delay taking difficult child in until tommorrow so he could get a chance to report to his po and explain himself and the po would go from there, either accept his reasons or have him appear before a judge. So i am waiting to hear what will happen when he goes.
This rollercoaster ride with these kids is too much. Just when you think you are detaching, something pulls you back. However, i had a long talk with his lawyer who has been very helpful trying to talk sense into difficult child and he helped me realize that i have really tried my best to help this kid and now it's up to him. Strangely, i am not worried as i would be and i am prepared for the outcome and if it's jail, then be it.