lovemysons
Well-Known Member
I just had a fairly enlightening conversation with my mother about my middle son...Young difficult child.
He is currently in jail for breaking probation (spitting at police felony from 3 plus yrs ago) when he put his fist through the windsheild of his wifes car with the grandbabies in the backseat. He got a "Reckless Child Endangerment" charge for that.
I have no idea how long young difficult child will be in jail for this probation violation (getting rearrested)...But when he gets out I HAVE to have a PLAN.
He has tried to commit suicide a few times over the last several yrs.
He is an alcoholic.
He has emotional/mental illness issues: anxiety depression and mania.
I know many of us fear the death or long term incarceration of our difficult child's.
How do you do what it is necessary to help them have self motivation to care about their lives and begin to move forward and take responsibility for themselves?
I am tired of living in fear of what might happen to my young difficult child.
I must help him...REALLY HELP HIM...I MUST stop crippling him and being his crutch for life.
My other 2 children have moved on...they have distanced themselves in one respect or another from husband and my input at this point. But young difficult child could quite possibly be living with husband and I for life if I do not get over my fears and get on with a plan I can stick with.
Young difficult child is the father of 2 children with one on the way. He must grow up.
I must stop being afraid of what will happen if I am not there for him.
LMS
He is currently in jail for breaking probation (spitting at police felony from 3 plus yrs ago) when he put his fist through the windsheild of his wifes car with the grandbabies in the backseat. He got a "Reckless Child Endangerment" charge for that.
I have no idea how long young difficult child will be in jail for this probation violation (getting rearrested)...But when he gets out I HAVE to have a PLAN.
He has tried to commit suicide a few times over the last several yrs.
He is an alcoholic.
He has emotional/mental illness issues: anxiety depression and mania.
I know many of us fear the death or long term incarceration of our difficult child's.
How do you do what it is necessary to help them have self motivation to care about their lives and begin to move forward and take responsibility for themselves?
I am tired of living in fear of what might happen to my young difficult child.
I must help him...REALLY HELP HIM...I MUST stop crippling him and being his crutch for life.
My other 2 children have moved on...they have distanced themselves in one respect or another from husband and my input at this point. But young difficult child could quite possibly be living with husband and I for life if I do not get over my fears and get on with a plan I can stick with.
Young difficult child is the father of 2 children with one on the way. He must grow up.
I must stop being afraid of what will happen if I am not there for him.
LMS