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their boundaries.
I've had repeated episodes in my life where I have had trouble (and trouble is an understatement) coping with folks who don't know their boundaries.
Made up examples of this might be a co-worker who takes your parking space at work. A friend who calls too much and its not even remotely aware that the amount of times they call is over the top.
Ironically, I'm actually fairly decent about giving folks the benefit of the doubt and I'm generous and kind with my friends. (Although I have my sensitivities to be sure).
But...I have this big thing with boundaries...and I DO believe it was worsened by having a difficult child.
At some point, we learn that for the most part, if you insist that people respect your boundaries, that they back off. Not so much with a difficult child.
Recently, I have met an adult difficult child at work. She is stepping on my boundaries. I have tried repeatedly to tell her what the boundaries are. She either barely gets it or doesn't get it at all.
I'm working part time. Surely those here who work full time have seen this before.
What coping strategies have you found helpful? How do you avoid confrontations? Is there really ANY effective way to get an adult difficult child to stop exhibiting inappropriate/unhelpful behavior?
Thank you.
I've had repeated episodes in my life where I have had trouble (and trouble is an understatement) coping with folks who don't know their boundaries.
Made up examples of this might be a co-worker who takes your parking space at work. A friend who calls too much and its not even remotely aware that the amount of times they call is over the top.
Ironically, I'm actually fairly decent about giving folks the benefit of the doubt and I'm generous and kind with my friends. (Although I have my sensitivities to be sure).
But...I have this big thing with boundaries...and I DO believe it was worsened by having a difficult child.
At some point, we learn that for the most part, if you insist that people respect your boundaries, that they back off. Not so much with a difficult child.
Recently, I have met an adult difficult child at work. She is stepping on my boundaries. I have tried repeatedly to tell her what the boundaries are. She either barely gets it or doesn't get it at all.
I'm working part time. Surely those here who work full time have seen this before.
What coping strategies have you found helpful? How do you avoid confrontations? Is there really ANY effective way to get an adult difficult child to stop exhibiting inappropriate/unhelpful behavior?
Thank you.