difficult child is 14 and has a fb account, actually she has 2 of them but only uses one. The 2nd one has just 5 people (including me, an uncle, a lady from church, a cousin and a friend of mine) These people are also on the first account too. Anyway, yesterday I noticed that she had shared some photos from some other friends and three of them had words I thought were objectionable. The content as a whole was not offensive, but the B word and the F word was used. I know they are used often among teens, but we have had several conversations that we had higher expectations for her, and expected not to see those things forwarded by her.
Yesterday, I politely asked her to delete the offending items, hang up her laundry, and then we would go to the DMV for her learners permit. I took a shower and when I came out, she informed me that she deleted her main fb account. I told her I only asked her to do the offending things that she posted. THen she went on about, well, a lot of people use those words and it would be best just to delete the whole thing. Well, I hunted for her old account and didn't see it... but then realized that she probably could have just blocked me. So I had a couple friends search fb, and her original account was still there.
When she was ready to go to the DMV I explained that we wouldn't be able to go as she lied to me. What?? About what?? When?? When I told her that she didn't delete it, then I got major attitude... I am outdated... everyone uses those words... etc. With in about an hour I got an apology and the next question was "can we still go to the DMV today?" Tried to explain that if I couldn't trust her with a computer in my home, how would I trust her with a car on the street?
How would you guys handle this? THanks. KSM
Yesterday, I politely asked her to delete the offending items, hang up her laundry, and then we would go to the DMV for her learners permit. I took a shower and when I came out, she informed me that she deleted her main fb account. I told her I only asked her to do the offending things that she posted. THen she went on about, well, a lot of people use those words and it would be best just to delete the whole thing. Well, I hunted for her old account and didn't see it... but then realized that she probably could have just blocked me. So I had a couple friends search fb, and her original account was still there.
When she was ready to go to the DMV I explained that we wouldn't be able to go as she lied to me. What?? About what?? When?? When I told her that she didn't delete it, then I got major attitude... I am outdated... everyone uses those words... etc. With in about an hour I got an apology and the next question was "can we still go to the DMV today?" Tried to explain that if I couldn't trust her with a computer in my home, how would I trust her with a car on the street?
How would you guys handle this? THanks. KSM