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my Aly! Aly is losing touch with reality.
Yesterday morning I got a call from my "sister" R, the adoptive mom of Jayme's sibs. Her girls and Aly go to the same school and after school enrichment program. They are all very close, call each other sisters.
R said that Aly told her girls that their bio mom is looking for them, wants them back. Told them about a whole scenario that happened before they were detained where there was extreme and I mean seriously extreme, violent stuff going on. R's girls were obviously very scared and upset by this whole thing.
I spoke immediately to Aly's mental health provider and she said that Aly has seemed to her that she is losing touch with reality or making up a new reality. Said I should use my judgement at how best to talk with Aly about this situation but might make things worse by bringing this up at all. I did my best not to talk to her about it, but I am so upset about the whole thing about how much she has frightened my "nieces".
This morning, on the way to school, Aly said she has been having alot of "flashes" lately. When I asked her what that meant, she said "You know like bright lights, and then flashes, like a memory". I asked if that has happened at school or after school program, she said yes, all the time.
Then as calmly as I could, I asked her to please not talk to the girls about their bio mom, let them talk with their R mom about that stuff. She screamed, grabbed my arm and asked why I said that. I had to tell her that R had told me that she spoke with the girls the day before and that they were very upset about it. I didn't go into any details, just reiterated that she is not to talk with them about their bio mom anymore.
Then she said "Why, I was there too? I hid under the bed with L when H was killed by the police man. I was in the car when bio mom and g'pa were arrested."
Then I asked her when she thought she joined our family. and she said "You adopted Jayme and me at the same time"
I said "Aly, I was there when you were born, held you while you were taking your first breaths, changed your first diaper, got you dressed in a cute little dress to take you home, you were not with the girls until Jayme joined our family, you were with us and you were 7 years old when Jayme came to live with us and her sisters went to live with Auntie R"
Her eyes got huge and she said that was not true, I am lying, she remembers perfectly being a baby with her bio mom.
She was getting visibly upset so I just hugged onto her and took her into the school psychiatric office and she is still with her right now. I came home to get out of my jammies and called her mental health crisis coordinator. MHCC just called me back and said that she spoke with Aly's psychiatrist and they feel she needs an emergency referral to a Neurologist, if not hospitalization. over the phone, it sounds to them like she is having nearly non-stop seizure activity and that is probably skewing her reality. I have a call into her Pediatrician, she usually calls me back pretty quickly. School psychiatric is supposed to call me back to see if Aly can make it through her school day or if I should come get her.
I honestly am so scared talking with all these professionals, it is throwing me back into PTSD of 2 years ago when I "trusted" the professionals in Aly's life and it backfired. But I am petrified of not talking with them as I feel my Aly is disappearing before my eyes.
husband and I talked last night and we both agree that she may need to be on home study. She is just too anxious all the time at school and the after school program.
Weird thing is, last night Aly told us she ended up having a fun day at the after school program. I dunno!!!
Well, gotta go get dressed and prepare for what may be a marathon doctor day. Will update when I know more. Thanks for reading, if you made it all the way through this book!!
Thanks and hugs,
Vickie
Yesterday morning I got a call from my "sister" R, the adoptive mom of Jayme's sibs. Her girls and Aly go to the same school and after school enrichment program. They are all very close, call each other sisters.
R said that Aly told her girls that their bio mom is looking for them, wants them back. Told them about a whole scenario that happened before they were detained where there was extreme and I mean seriously extreme, violent stuff going on. R's girls were obviously very scared and upset by this whole thing.
I spoke immediately to Aly's mental health provider and she said that Aly has seemed to her that she is losing touch with reality or making up a new reality. Said I should use my judgement at how best to talk with Aly about this situation but might make things worse by bringing this up at all. I did my best not to talk to her about it, but I am so upset about the whole thing about how much she has frightened my "nieces".
This morning, on the way to school, Aly said she has been having alot of "flashes" lately. When I asked her what that meant, she said "You know like bright lights, and then flashes, like a memory". I asked if that has happened at school or after school program, she said yes, all the time.
Then as calmly as I could, I asked her to please not talk to the girls about their bio mom, let them talk with their R mom about that stuff. She screamed, grabbed my arm and asked why I said that. I had to tell her that R had told me that she spoke with the girls the day before and that they were very upset about it. I didn't go into any details, just reiterated that she is not to talk with them about their bio mom anymore.
Then she said "Why, I was there too? I hid under the bed with L when H was killed by the police man. I was in the car when bio mom and g'pa were arrested."
Then I asked her when she thought she joined our family. and she said "You adopted Jayme and me at the same time"
I said "Aly, I was there when you were born, held you while you were taking your first breaths, changed your first diaper, got you dressed in a cute little dress to take you home, you were not with the girls until Jayme joined our family, you were with us and you were 7 years old when Jayme came to live with us and her sisters went to live with Auntie R"
Her eyes got huge and she said that was not true, I am lying, she remembers perfectly being a baby with her bio mom.
She was getting visibly upset so I just hugged onto her and took her into the school psychiatric office and she is still with her right now. I came home to get out of my jammies and called her mental health crisis coordinator. MHCC just called me back and said that she spoke with Aly's psychiatrist and they feel she needs an emergency referral to a Neurologist, if not hospitalization. over the phone, it sounds to them like she is having nearly non-stop seizure activity and that is probably skewing her reality. I have a call into her Pediatrician, she usually calls me back pretty quickly. School psychiatric is supposed to call me back to see if Aly can make it through her school day or if I should come get her.
I honestly am so scared talking with all these professionals, it is throwing me back into PTSD of 2 years ago when I "trusted" the professionals in Aly's life and it backfired. But I am petrified of not talking with them as I feel my Aly is disappearing before my eyes.
husband and I talked last night and we both agree that she may need to be on home study. She is just too anxious all the time at school and the after school program.
Weird thing is, last night Aly told us she ended up having a fun day at the after school program. I dunno!!!
Well, gotta go get dressed and prepare for what may be a marathon doctor day. Will update when I know more. Thanks for reading, if you made it all the way through this book!!
Thanks and hugs,
Vickie