difficult child woke up from her nap - mad because she missed speech therapy (I didn't have a way to get her there as I was in the IEP meeting and easy child and girlfriend were at work and school, respectively), and then really mad because she didn't go to the IEP meeting. I told her about the partial days and the social studies online. She completely flipped. She can't learn online. Funny, cause she did ONLINE school for 2 years and got good grades. Then she said that she didn't/doesn't want partial days every day and that she told me that like 5 times. Funny - I never heard it. She just wants them on the days she "needs" it. Well, how are we going to know when you need it? And how is that going to work for your schoolwork? You're just going to miss days here and there and have make up work and get overwhelmed by it? How are we going to plan for this? UGH!!!!! She wants to be at the IEP meeting because she doesn't want me to put anything in that she doesn't want. Well, I can guarantee that except for the notes, she isn't going to want anything I'm asking for. I told her that I am the parent and I make the decisions; that she is not well enough or old enough to be making these decisions for herself. She doesn't want any accommodations that may actually help her - she'd rather be miserable and anxious and complain that she's not learning anything and that the school doesn't care and that she's never going to learn - that she *can't* learn. She then goes on to tell me that I don't know anything about her. That I only know her diagnoses because the doctors have told me. That I don't understand how she thinks or processes things. You know, I am SICK to death of hearing that. I finally told her to talk to therapist about that and see what she thinks. She goes and tells people that she has Mixed PD, but completely denies Borderline. Why? Because I was the first one to talk to her about it - even though it was after therapist diagnosis'd it. I did tell her that I am making executive decisions and that she can hate them all she wants and she can hate me all she wants, but that I *am* doing what I think is best for her and that it's non-negotiable. She doesn't like the idea that she's not on the same level as me. That she is the child and I am the parent and that I can AND will make decisions on her behalf without consulting her. It is my job and my responsibility. She is going to be SO much fun to live with. You know, I am really sick of being the one to deal with the fallout - and spending hours with her during her meltdowns - and then having a raging difficult child when I'm trying to get the right services in place - and being told that I don't know anything about her.