I don't do that anymore!

Discussion in 'General Parenting' started by Wiped Out, Jun 21, 2007.

  1. Wiped Out

    Wiped Out Well-Known Member Staff Member

    A bit of background: Right now we are really working on difficult child not swearing and calling us rude names. difficult child's therapist set up this program where if he makes it an hour (yes an hour) of not swearing at us he gets to pick a slip of paper from a jar. Some slips say, "good job" or "Way To Go" things like that. Others say he has earned 1/2 hour of game time. Some say he gets a new book or he gets $1.00.

    When we were setting this up we decided to put in no physical aggression as well (even though it has greatly declined my fear was if he couldn't be verbally abusive he would be physically aggressive).

    So now to my story-Tonight I was telling him his hour was starting. He wanted me to remind him besides swearing what else he couldn't do. I told him no disrespect and no physical aggression. He replied, "I don't do the physical stuff anymore."


    I know it may seem small but I was very excited that he is seeing himself as not doing it (physical aggession really has decreased although he had an incident last Friday). If he doesn't see himself this way I think it is a step in the right direction!
     
  2. waytootired

    waytootired New Member

    Good for you for sticking with the program. It sounds like it has been positive. It is so hard to keep up these types of programs day to day ,not to mention, hour by hour...Glad it's helping !!
     
  3. pigless

    pigless New Member

    Sharon, that's a huge plus! He's altered his thinking! I'm really proud of him. :bravo:
     
  4. Wiped Out

    Wiped Out Well-Known Member Staff Member

    Thanks ladies!

    Waytootired-We actually just started the rewards program so it isn't that for his thinking with the physical aggression piece.We really started it to help with his constant verbal abuse. We only do the program one hour a day to start.

    Pigless-I'm really proud too that he is thinking differently about himself.
     
  5. Alisonlg

    Alisonlg New Member

    That's so awesome!!!! I'm so happy to hear this!
     
  6. busywend

    busywend Well-Known Member Staff Member

    It is great that he can tell himself that. He also gave you a response to it if he does become aggressive again. You can calmly remind him that he 'does not do that anymore'.

    Very cool!!

    :smile:
     
  7. WhymeMom?

    WhymeMom? No real answers to life..

    You have probably already done this, but do you have a list posted of DO's and DON'Tourette's Syndrome? Might just be a handy reminder when you are not immediately available.....keep the list short.....

    Sounds like progress to me.....even getting them to think ahead before they just simply react....
     
  8. timer lady

    timer lady Queen of Hearts

    :bravo: Sharon, what a positive update. difficult child is becoming self aware of his actions. :bravo:
     
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