ColleenB
Active Member
Soooooooo
Found out tonight that younger son has failed two courses this term, his two core Computer science ones. Which puts him on academic probation, and makes it so he can't even switch faculties. He said he had a 90 going in, and I saw his marks, he did. But it's required to pass the finals to pass the course. He says he hates CS, and wants to do something else. Ugh.
Older son got drunk this afternoon, we figured it out from his wacky texts, and just got home and went to bed.
My poor husband is going to have a coronary. I rush I was joking. I'm scared he seriously has a heart attack. We have both worked hard, and given our boys lots of support and opportunities. To see them both fail is heartbreaking. Younger son got a B in calculus so I know he is capable. Older son is very smart, but addiction had taken a toll on him.
We feel we have failed as parents.... Not sure how I'm going to sleep tonight and do my job tomorrow.
Husband plans on taking the day tomorrow off and taking younger son into university to talk to an advisor. He also wants to talk with older son about his drinking. He was so angry and upset tonight. He was such a good dad, coaching, being present in both boys lives... He just is so upset and hurt. His own father was an alcoholic who never did anything with him, and he vowed not to be like him. He really is a good dad. I am so sad for him.
I feel sad for me too, but I know he blames himself. I don't know what I blame... As there is no point in blame. They really were sweet boys who usually did well in school ( older son more than younger) gave us little in the way of attitude as teens so not sure where it went awry.....
Found out tonight that younger son has failed two courses this term, his two core Computer science ones. Which puts him on academic probation, and makes it so he can't even switch faculties. He said he had a 90 going in, and I saw his marks, he did. But it's required to pass the finals to pass the course. He says he hates CS, and wants to do something else. Ugh.
Older son got drunk this afternoon, we figured it out from his wacky texts, and just got home and went to bed.
My poor husband is going to have a coronary. I rush I was joking. I'm scared he seriously has a heart attack. We have both worked hard, and given our boys lots of support and opportunities. To see them both fail is heartbreaking. Younger son got a B in calculus so I know he is capable. Older son is very smart, but addiction had taken a toll on him.
We feel we have failed as parents.... Not sure how I'm going to sleep tonight and do my job tomorrow.
Husband plans on taking the day tomorrow off and taking younger son into university to talk to an advisor. He also wants to talk with older son about his drinking. He was so angry and upset tonight. He was such a good dad, coaching, being present in both boys lives... He just is so upset and hurt. His own father was an alcoholic who never did anything with him, and he vowed not to be like him. He really is a good dad. I am so sad for him.
I feel sad for me too, but I know he blames himself. I don't know what I blame... As there is no point in blame. They really were sweet boys who usually did well in school ( older son more than younger) gave us little in the way of attitude as teens so not sure where it went awry.....