I got a nice compliment today

Discussion in 'The Watercooler' started by mstang67chic, Aug 28, 2009.

  1. mstang67chic

    mstang67chic Going Green

    I was at the store and ran into one of difficult child's old teachers from elementary. She had seen my letter to the editor (I posted about it here) in the paper and said she was very glad I wrote it. She thought it was very well written and she cut it out to show other teachers who may not have seen it. She's actually the first person to say anything to me about it so I was glad it was positive. After I sent it in, I reread it and kept second guessing myself...maybe I should have said this or that, maybe it sounded stupid...etc. So I'm glad that someone liked it.
  2. TerryJ2

    TerryJ2 Well-Known Member

    That's great! Isn't good feedback wonderful?
    I don't recall the letter ... can you post it again?
  3. mstang67chic

    mstang67chic Going Green

    Scared myself for a minute...almost couldn't find it! LOL To give credit where due, this was inspired by a post Christy made. And as far as I could tell, my paper printed it in it's entirety.

    Dear Editor,

    With a new school year upon us, I wanted to share some thoughts that may help students, teachers and parents alike.

    Mental health and/or behavioral issues regarding children seem to be all over the news these days. Most parents can tell stories of a student in their child’s classroom that is disruptive or “different” in some way and I’m sure that most teachers have one of these children in their class. While more and more people are becoming aware of such things as ADHD, Bipolar or other biological based mental illnesses, a lot of people still aren’t aware that these syndromes/issues/illnesses can be the cause of disruptive behavior in children or that children even have mental illness. As a result, sometimes a child with a diagnoses is regarded as a brat, a result of bad parenting or simply a child in need of more discipline. What’s not always understood though is that a lot of the unwanted behaviors are sometimes, beyond the child’s control and is a direct result of their condition.

    Illnesses such as the ones mentioned, are largely biologically based and require various treatments to control just as you would control, for example, diabetes with diet changes and/or insulin. A diabetic whose sugar levels are out of whack can display changes in behavior and thought processes. A child with a mental illness is very similar. If their treatment, be it medicine, therapy or coping techniques, is in need of adjustment or has yet to begin or become effective, the behavior will usually show this. How we as parents, teachers or other authority figures respond to these behaviors can and will affect how the child responds. Punishing a child for being frustrated is not effective. Helping the child cope with their extreme frustration will. Punishing a child because they literally can not sit still won’t help. Redirecting their energy into something possibly less distracting can be a solution. For example, if a child can’t stop tapping their foot in class, allowing the child to remove his/her shoe when possible so the tapping would be much less audible could be a reasonable compromise.

    Many of today’s children are diagnosed with various things. Technically, since they are brain based, be it ADHD, Bipolar or other various conditions, these would be considered a mental illness. That does not mean the child is crazy or that it is the fault of the parents. It simply means that their brain is wired differently or that the chemicals in the brain aren’t quite what is considered “normal” levels. As a medical condition, privacy may be desired by the parents or child but it is not something to be ashamed of just as one wouldn’t be ashamed of diabetes, thyroid conditions or severe food allergies.

    The term mental illness encompasses a broad range of conditions that are biologically based but yet still carry the stigma of something to be kept secret and hidden away. This applies also to the many adults who have some sort of mental illness. With the right treatment however, most mentally ill children and adults are quite capable of functioning “normally”, attending school, holding good jobs and generally living their lives as a productive and contributing members of society. Children though are still developing; they are growing and are learning the best ways for them to treat, control and deal with whatever symptoms their diagnoses manifests itself in.

    As someone who has dealt with and still is dealing with mentally ill family members I would like you to, if you encounter a child who seems to be a “discipline problem”, not make assumptions. Take a moment to think and realize that maybe there is a medical reason for the behaviors you see, rather than a lack of discipline or uninvolved parents. The same goes for adults who are whispered about because they are mentally ill. Mental illness may very well be a term in need of modernizing because with treatment, it is nothing to be ashamed or scared of. It is only the lack of the public’s knowledge and education on the subject that is the problem.
  4. Star*

    Star* call 911........call 911

    I told you it was nice....didn't I say VERY NICE? GOOD JOB.

    You are a very talented writer Stang. EBEN WHEN YOU WRITES TO DA POOTIE ! ;)
  5. gcvmom

    gcvmom Here we go again!

    I'm glad you took the time to send it in. If no one ever says anything, nothing will ever change. :bravo:
  6. crazymama30

    crazymama30 Active Member

    Wow. That is great. I am impressed.
  7. Wiped Out

    Wiped Out Well-Known Member Staff Member

    Awesome letter!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!