SuZir
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After getting my garden beds turned over I found my self thinking, what to do next. Then: What to do during this summer? That I could still come up a lot of things but then: What will I do next fall?
Okay, I do have a full time job. I like it, like my workmates, find it very worthwhile but I did choose that work to best accommodate my family life. It is not challenging me very much. But in today's job market it is a dream job. I could probably find something more challenging, but pay wouldn't be much different and work times would probably be much less convenient.
I have always had a busy lifestyle and last 19 years it has been mostly around my kids. And I did had this huge mental list of things I would so like to do, if I just had a time. But now that difficult child has been out of home over a year and easy child isn't keeping me busy even that much he used to do, I have found myself bored. Our family life used to be so busy we had very clearly cut responsibilities and huge calendars hanging in the fall to keep it organized. And now my column in there is almost empty (easy child and husband are still busy.) It used to be so that I handled difficult child's sports A and B (driving him, all the volunteer work etc.), school related matters with both boys and music hobby with both. husband handled easy child's sports A and B and sport C for both. He also has a much more busy job. House work,everyone did their part.
But now difficult child is away, easy child is changing schools and in next stage only thing parents are really expected to do is sign a paper here and other there. easy child is also quitting his sport B and quitted C already a year ago and is also begging a permission to stop with music and we are letting him do so, he will be busy anyway with school and sport A. husband is very involved with easy child's sport A and it is very time consuming activity so I will not be seeing them a lot come fall. I could of course volunteer myself to that also but after all those years doing it to difficult child's team it really doesn't sound something I would like to do now. So I will have even more time in my hands.
That list of things I would like to do when I have time was indeed long and I haven't done all yet, but I have noticed almost all of those things were something that involved peace and quiet and having alone time. Things I was really missing while busy and dealing with people and being social and active all the time. So I think I need to come up with something that would be social, active but preferably not having a fund raising component (I'm still totally over all kinds of fund raisings after being part of that kind of things for sports, music and school all the time.) If I really wanted to be a cafeteria worker, baker, door-to-door salesman, direct seller or many of the other common fund raising work specialists I would do it for work.
I have been looking our family dogs and thinking of going back to volunteer search and rescue work that I was involved before the kids. But I'm not sure if either of our dogs would be suitable. We chose them for their family dog qualities, not for working. And while it is a volunteer thing, if you are able to train a dog to the level it can be used in real life situations, it is usually matter of life and death (most common situations here are elderly with memory problems getting lost in woods and there is only that much time to find them alive in our harsh climate) and dog really has to have that stamina to work hard. But it would indeed be fun to work with animal training again more. I even found myself dreaming about having a horse again (I haven't have one of my own after sons were young, I have had no time for one.)
Okay, I do have a full time job. I like it, like my workmates, find it very worthwhile but I did choose that work to best accommodate my family life. It is not challenging me very much. But in today's job market it is a dream job. I could probably find something more challenging, but pay wouldn't be much different and work times would probably be much less convenient.
I have always had a busy lifestyle and last 19 years it has been mostly around my kids. And I did had this huge mental list of things I would so like to do, if I just had a time. But now that difficult child has been out of home over a year and easy child isn't keeping me busy even that much he used to do, I have found myself bored. Our family life used to be so busy we had very clearly cut responsibilities and huge calendars hanging in the fall to keep it organized. And now my column in there is almost empty (easy child and husband are still busy.) It used to be so that I handled difficult child's sports A and B (driving him, all the volunteer work etc.), school related matters with both boys and music hobby with both. husband handled easy child's sports A and B and sport C for both. He also has a much more busy job. House work,everyone did their part.
But now difficult child is away, easy child is changing schools and in next stage only thing parents are really expected to do is sign a paper here and other there. easy child is also quitting his sport B and quitted C already a year ago and is also begging a permission to stop with music and we are letting him do so, he will be busy anyway with school and sport A. husband is very involved with easy child's sport A and it is very time consuming activity so I will not be seeing them a lot come fall. I could of course volunteer myself to that also but after all those years doing it to difficult child's team it really doesn't sound something I would like to do now. So I will have even more time in my hands.
That list of things I would like to do when I have time was indeed long and I haven't done all yet, but I have noticed almost all of those things were something that involved peace and quiet and having alone time. Things I was really missing while busy and dealing with people and being social and active all the time. So I think I need to come up with something that would be social, active but preferably not having a fund raising component (I'm still totally over all kinds of fund raisings after being part of that kind of things for sports, music and school all the time.) If I really wanted to be a cafeteria worker, baker, door-to-door salesman, direct seller or many of the other common fund raising work specialists I would do it for work.
I have been looking our family dogs and thinking of going back to volunteer search and rescue work that I was involved before the kids. But I'm not sure if either of our dogs would be suitable. We chose them for their family dog qualities, not for working. And while it is a volunteer thing, if you are able to train a dog to the level it can be used in real life situations, it is usually matter of life and death (most common situations here are elderly with memory problems getting lost in woods and there is only that much time to find them alive in our harsh climate) and dog really has to have that stamina to work hard. But it would indeed be fun to work with animal training again more. I even found myself dreaming about having a horse again (I haven't have one of my own after sons were young, I have had no time for one.)