I love snow days.....unfortunately

Discussion in 'General Parenting' started by timer lady, Dec 10, 2009.

  1. timer lady

    timer lady Queen of Hearts

    All of my appts were canceled yesterday due to weather conditions. Not a problem; I spent a wonderful day watching people try to drive amidst a blizzard & reading. In the afternoon I spent 3 hours on my painting & about 2 hours playing piano. I was in my zen.

    Then I got a phone call from wm. He "confessed" to stealing almost $300 from foster mum & dad plus having hard core porn (no one is quite sure where the porn came from ~ likely classmates). Doesn't matter.

    Foster mum & dad are considering pressing charges & are considering having wm removed from their home (to god knows where). Nothing is set in stone quite yet.

    I agree with fosters mum J & told her to do whatever she felt was best. I spoke with wm & about blew a gasket. I'm actually letting him know my true feelings after all these years ~ showing him my anger at his antics. This isn't mental illness - this is a young man heading into conduct disorder.

    He has a team of 13 people working their behinds off for him; he can tell you what's right & wrong. Practices like crazy ~ continues to make incredibly poor choices.

    Next time there is a snow day I'm not picking up the phone from wm; I hardly picked the phone up yesterday anyway.

    I could just shake this boy.
  2. pepperidge

    pepperidge New Member

    I would be angry. I would be scared about what will happen to him and where he will end up living. I would be frustrated having moved heaven and earth to get him this far with this much support.

    Sigh. From what you have said, though, it seemed like he was making real progress. Do you think this is more of an isolated incident, albeit a pretty serious one, or has there been other stuff happening?

    What a **&^% ending to what sounded like an almost magical day. Hugs.
  3. mstang67chic

    mstang67chic Going Green

    Linda, for all of the differences in their similar backgrounds (you know what I mean), I'm still amazed at the number of similarities in our boys. It's almost like they realize they have been doing good for too long and have this insane urge to do something "bad" so their reputation doesn't get sullied. :slap: If I didn't know better, I'd almost swear that your tweedles and my difficult child were related.

    I hate to think of Wm being sent to juvie as it wouldn't be at all beneficial for him in the long run. But.....he's got to get it into his head that he can't be doing this stuff. What are the other options for him? Is there any other fosters or maybe a group home? (Or is he in a group home now?)

    I'm glad you had a relatively quite snow day Wm aside. Sending hugs.
  4. timer lady

    timer lady Queen of Hearts

    Spoke with foster mum this morning & I likely misunderstood what she was telling me. This is wm's last chance ~ she doesn't want to see wm in juvie. It's likely the worst place for him.

    In the meantime, he's one on one with every adult in his world right now. Like a toddler. No one is mean or constantly reminds him of his antics - he just must be in the company of an adult at all times at group home.

    So....I told foster mum (god bless her) that I supported whatever decision she wanted to go with. AND as always I thanked her for being a member of our family of different addresses.

  5. Wiped Out

    Wiped Out Well-Known Member Staff Member

    Oh Linda,
    I'm sorry; this just stinks. I think it's good you let him hear your anger. No great suggestions on my part but wanted to send you some hugs.