DammitJanet
Well-Known Member
Ugh...this is getting more confusing as it goes on. I guess I just need to call her and ask if I need to come up there after new years. Sigh.
That said I see one of two options. Either you call her directly or you contact the funeral home and ask which attorneys are involved in the estate. (If it is a small community the funeral director will probably then inform Pat that you called.) Chances are they know. on the other hand, they will only know what is in writing.
If you opt to call I would suggest being truthful. After appropriate greeting I would say "Pat, I feel uncomfortable or funny
about contacting you about some sentimental possessions. I hope you are not offended but there are a few things that Dad told us he would like us to have...and I don't know if he wrote them down or shared his thoughts on those items.
Would you be OK with me asking you about those things? As meticulous as he was he may not have noted items without monetary value. "