Hopingforthe best
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I stumbled on this forum while searching for information on troubled teens and have found a lot of helpful advice.
I am a mother of a 19 year old son who is lost and i don't know how to help him. My son was a mature, respectful, resposinsible child until he was introduced to marijuana about two years ago when he was a junior in high school. He managed to graduate high school with good grades and was accepted to a good state college in our area. Two months after joining college, he started hanging out with a group of kids who are into no good, kids who were not going to school and some who sold drugs. One day in 0ctomber las last year, he was driving 5 of those kids around in a car i had let him use when they were stopped by the cops. One kid had a gun and after they were taken to the station, they convinced my son to take responsibility for the gun since he was the only one without a police record and without thinking he did - imagine that? Anyway, he was charged with three gun charges which are still pending today, and the trial is for september. Anyway, after this happened i thought something would click and he would straighten up his behaviour and stop smoking pot. I was wrong. For two months he was doing so well emotionally and academically but as they say good things don't last. His smoking habits increased, he started breaking all the house rules, while i continued giving him chance after chance even after he would smoke in my vehicle and my house. When schools closed this summer he had failed all his exams and lost his college scholarship - did i mention three of his best friends dropped out of college in the middle of the year? I continued pushing and a month ago helped him get accepted into an internship at the church where we worship which will pay 5000 dollars for college once he completes it. About two weeks ago he went to a local bank where he had an account and deposited fake cheques and withdrew 500 dollars, and when the bank called to investigate, he accepted responsibility and was told to pay or he would be reported to the police for larceny. So what did i do? pay if for him because he didn't have a cent.
Last night i went to work a night shift - i am a nurse, and when i came home around noon, i found beer bottles in the living room, trash can full of marijuana remnants, and he didn't even show up for the internship. So i snapped and threw him out of the house. I know i have not helped him much since i have been bailing him out often but i feel like this is it, i can't take it anymore. I am afraid for him because he is impulsive and could do anything at this time, what do i do? I am planning on letting him stay out of the house for a week and then i am thinking of sending him out to an outward bound program for at risk youth in august, is there anyone who had experience with outward bound here?
I am a mother of a 19 year old son who is lost and i don't know how to help him. My son was a mature, respectful, resposinsible child until he was introduced to marijuana about two years ago when he was a junior in high school. He managed to graduate high school with good grades and was accepted to a good state college in our area. Two months after joining college, he started hanging out with a group of kids who are into no good, kids who were not going to school and some who sold drugs. One day in 0ctomber las last year, he was driving 5 of those kids around in a car i had let him use when they were stopped by the cops. One kid had a gun and after they were taken to the station, they convinced my son to take responsibility for the gun since he was the only one without a police record and without thinking he did - imagine that? Anyway, he was charged with three gun charges which are still pending today, and the trial is for september. Anyway, after this happened i thought something would click and he would straighten up his behaviour and stop smoking pot. I was wrong. For two months he was doing so well emotionally and academically but as they say good things don't last. His smoking habits increased, he started breaking all the house rules, while i continued giving him chance after chance even after he would smoke in my vehicle and my house. When schools closed this summer he had failed all his exams and lost his college scholarship - did i mention three of his best friends dropped out of college in the middle of the year? I continued pushing and a month ago helped him get accepted into an internship at the church where we worship which will pay 5000 dollars for college once he completes it. About two weeks ago he went to a local bank where he had an account and deposited fake cheques and withdrew 500 dollars, and when the bank called to investigate, he accepted responsibility and was told to pay or he would be reported to the police for larceny. So what did i do? pay if for him because he didn't have a cent.
Last night i went to work a night shift - i am a nurse, and when i came home around noon, i found beer bottles in the living room, trash can full of marijuana remnants, and he didn't even show up for the internship. So i snapped and threw him out of the house. I know i have not helped him much since i have been bailing him out often but i feel like this is it, i can't take it anymore. I am afraid for him because he is impulsive and could do anything at this time, what do i do? I am planning on letting him stay out of the house for a week and then i am thinking of sending him out to an outward bound program for at risk youth in august, is there anyone who had experience with outward bound here?