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MOST interesting..... the principal and school psychiatric said NOTHING. I think I posted that the advocate had told the sp. ed. coordinator that if they said anything to me at all, one rude word, she was going to confront them right there and she had asked the coordinator to lock the principal in the broom closet. I was totally fine with their silence.
The teacher focused her data into on task behavior and showed a nice chart to go with it. The admin talks about how he is not doing the level he should be but I have to say.... that is exactly why a child is in Special Education. They are not and for some can not do the level of work that typical students can do. No student is on task 100% of the day and Q actually had some periods of days where he was 100% compliant and doing his work (which includes sensory breaks so is not intensive school work for that long).
The advocate really has huge conflict with the sp. ed. coordinator in her history. But, she had to admit again that this lady really stood up for Q during the meeting. She told them to rephrase how they said things, reminded people that he was not trying to act wild, but was sensory seeking, etc. I was pleased that they really were very professional and both working for Q during the meeting.
They are excited to try the auditory trainer with him.
The approved the independent FBA and are paying for the copies because the policy is if it is for programmng at school then they supply it free.
They said that they are playing phone tag with the person doing the fba but we will see, it has been over a month now and they keep saying what should we do when he does x, y z..and I keep saying, well that is what the fba is for... faster you do it faster we can work on it. duh
Every single time we have a meeting Q has a terrible day. I dont know how the day went before this but I got a call at 2 that he wouldn't take his medications. So, I went to get him. the psychiatric followed me so Q started hitting and kicking me, I hate him so much. He just does not listen. Once in teh room alone I easily calmed him down. But then they told him NO BUS so he went off on me. Really, why??? They caused that. I noticed right away that he was itching down there again. HE said it was awful again. I know it was 100% gone by last week. So, in the car he was calm and wanted to earn some things and started making unreasonable demands. I said we can talk at home about that and he took an old drink he had back there and threw it all over me. OOOO was I mad. I pulled over and picked up the other cup and threw it on him! I am so not proud of that but I was so ticked off. I know it is not about me but I was really mad. I then took off and he knew it was bad. I pulled over into our community center parking lot which s also the police lot. I didn't say anything but he cried in a voice I had never heard. He was scared out of his mind. I just got out of the car, opened up the trunk andgot out a towel. I went to his side and asked him to clean up. He cried the whole time. When he was finished I drove home and he went to the tub and begged for a bath to get the itching to stop. When that was over he came into me and said, I know there is nothign I can do to make it better. I know sorry wont evern make this one better. But I have your scarf and if you want it I will give it back to you (It is really soft and fuzzy and he loves it) then he said, unless you dont, then can I keep it please...he was already all wrapped up in it. I told him I didn't want it. He came over and gave me the softest hug ever, kissed my cheek, which also he has never done in that way... he held on so soft and when he pulled back he saw I was crying and he kissed my cheek again. I said, Q I am so sorry I threw that but I was shocked that you did that. I have been working so hard to help you and I am frustrated that nothing seems to be working. I asked you several times what will help and we have worked on that but when you get upset you hurt me. He started crying too.
He left and said I am going to do a bunch of chores to help you mom, I know it wont make it better but I will do it anyway.
My hurt finger got hurt some point in the school part of this and is all swollen up again. How can I feel so angry and so sorry for him at the same time?
He just called up that he is going to do his reading homework now.... he is really desperate to fix this. HE knows I will not give him any money for Integrated Listening Systems (ILS) tonight and also he can't go to a mall. He thinks I will change my mind I think but he is saying he knows I wont and that he accepts it so we will see ....
The teacher focused her data into on task behavior and showed a nice chart to go with it. The admin talks about how he is not doing the level he should be but I have to say.... that is exactly why a child is in Special Education. They are not and for some can not do the level of work that typical students can do. No student is on task 100% of the day and Q actually had some periods of days where he was 100% compliant and doing his work (which includes sensory breaks so is not intensive school work for that long).
The advocate really has huge conflict with the sp. ed. coordinator in her history. But, she had to admit again that this lady really stood up for Q during the meeting. She told them to rephrase how they said things, reminded people that he was not trying to act wild, but was sensory seeking, etc. I was pleased that they really were very professional and both working for Q during the meeting.
They are excited to try the auditory trainer with him.
The approved the independent FBA and are paying for the copies because the policy is if it is for programmng at school then they supply it free.
They said that they are playing phone tag with the person doing the fba but we will see, it has been over a month now and they keep saying what should we do when he does x, y z..and I keep saying, well that is what the fba is for... faster you do it faster we can work on it. duh
Every single time we have a meeting Q has a terrible day. I dont know how the day went before this but I got a call at 2 that he wouldn't take his medications. So, I went to get him. the psychiatric followed me so Q started hitting and kicking me, I hate him so much. He just does not listen. Once in teh room alone I easily calmed him down. But then they told him NO BUS so he went off on me. Really, why??? They caused that. I noticed right away that he was itching down there again. HE said it was awful again. I know it was 100% gone by last week. So, in the car he was calm and wanted to earn some things and started making unreasonable demands. I said we can talk at home about that and he took an old drink he had back there and threw it all over me. OOOO was I mad. I pulled over and picked up the other cup and threw it on him! I am so not proud of that but I was so ticked off. I know it is not about me but I was really mad. I then took off and he knew it was bad. I pulled over into our community center parking lot which s also the police lot. I didn't say anything but he cried in a voice I had never heard. He was scared out of his mind. I just got out of the car, opened up the trunk andgot out a towel. I went to his side and asked him to clean up. He cried the whole time. When he was finished I drove home and he went to the tub and begged for a bath to get the itching to stop. When that was over he came into me and said, I know there is nothign I can do to make it better. I know sorry wont evern make this one better. But I have your scarf and if you want it I will give it back to you (It is really soft and fuzzy and he loves it) then he said, unless you dont, then can I keep it please...he was already all wrapped up in it. I told him I didn't want it. He came over and gave me the softest hug ever, kissed my cheek, which also he has never done in that way... he held on so soft and when he pulled back he saw I was crying and he kissed my cheek again. I said, Q I am so sorry I threw that but I was shocked that you did that. I have been working so hard to help you and I am frustrated that nothing seems to be working. I asked you several times what will help and we have worked on that but when you get upset you hurt me. He started crying too.
He left and said I am going to do a bunch of chores to help you mom, I know it wont make it better but I will do it anyway.
My hurt finger got hurt some point in the school part of this and is all swollen up again. How can I feel so angry and so sorry for him at the same time?
He just called up that he is going to do his reading homework now.... he is really desperate to fix this. HE knows I will not give him any money for Integrated Listening Systems (ILS) tonight and also he can't go to a mall. He thinks I will change my mind I think but he is saying he knows I wont and that he accepts it so we will see ....