.....and quacks like a duck...is it a duck?...or do you actually have to see the feathers? difficult child's 3 main buddies (1) the first boy he was caught drinking with at age 14 (2 & 3) Set of twins, one had his picture in the newspaper for arrest. charged with selling cocaine These are the people that my difficult child leaves with on the weekends. He doesn't come in on the weekends. I have no proof other than his attitude and actions. I am 80% sure I have smelled alcohol on his breath Can I ask if any of you know how long cocaine stays in the system? I have decided to ask po to do a drug test. I have seen everything but the feathers!!! I am just prolonging the next step in difficult child's life. He is slipping right back into his lifestyle and I am allowing him to disrupt our lives in the process. I used to just say easy child doesn't deserve to live in chaos, but I now believe that husband and I don't deserve to live in it either. I have not let him hit bottom, that frantic call about being cold and hungry and he will do anything to come home is a distant memory to him. I felt so strong when he came back, I haven't turned around good and it is back the same dysfuntional way it was to start with. If the test is positive, I will stand my ground and he will be back on the streets. Again, Anyone know how long cocaine stays in the system? Or other drugs for that matter, I am not sure what all he is doing. The po does a standard urine test in her office.