My 16 1/2 year old son, JT, has been in and out of the juvenile justice system since he was 14 years old. He spent a year in state custody in a rehab program. He got out and began smoking pot again that afternoon. As far as I know his drugs of choice are weed, LSD and mushrooms. I know he will only quit when he is ready. I cannot change that. I wish I could understand his self destructive behavior. He lives at home now. The question now is how do I cope? He smokes downstairs in the basement. Am I legally responsible? His friends all come over and smoke? Again, am I legally responsible? If he is selling out of my home, am I legally responsible? My ex- husband have already lost 2 sons. One whom was born pre-mature and required total care 24/7 for the short 17 years of his life. I was already and tired and burned from loosing JW. Parenting is extremely difficult after the death of a child. We are absolutely petrified of losing a 3rd child. Any advise?