Okay, so difficult child is getting so out of hand! New counselor comes to the house and talks about everything and does the intake process and she leaves. Within 3 minutes of her departure, difficult child decides dinner is not ready fast enough and starts mouthing and yelling at me and my mother. After several attempts to get him to calm down, I told him to just go to his room and leave me alone. difficult child goes to his room...only AFTER hitting every wall and he threw the cable remote across the hall into the restroom. I went in there and yelled and he started telling me, "I hate you, I hope you die, you are gay, you are a lesbian." I just agreed. No point in arguing with these type of comments, right? He started kicking the dresser and knocking things off so he lost cable, tv and PS2. After a 45 min struggle and my son's repeated threat of slicing his throat, police were called. Of course they come out and do NOTHING!!!! They would not even take him to psychiatric hospital because difficult child told them he did not want to hurt himself.(He has this whole system wrapped around his little finger.) I was on my way to meet with the Judge when difficult child told officers he would go to hospital voluntarily. I took him but of course after 3.5 hours of sitting there, difficult child was calm, collected and SLEEPING! The doctor didn't see any reason to admit him....well what a genius! We go home.
Thursday night, difficult child got upset bc his cousin changed the tv when he walked out of the room and they started to get into it when I stepped in between them to stop it. (Probably not smart on my part to get in between 2 14 yo boys but what else am I to do.) difficult child storms into his room slamming the door into the wall and putting a hole in the wall. I decided not to react to it bc I was extremely angry. When my mother came home, she was talking with my nephew about what had happened. difficult child is in his room screaming at my mother and banging on the walls. I went into his room, popped him on the arm and told him to quit hitting on the walls at which time he jumped in my face and swung hitting me in the arm. I pushed him to the bed not knowing what he was intending to do. He tried to come back up at me when I pushed him to the bed and was attempting to restrain him. He was able to manuever away from me and was trying to get out of his room. I was standing in the doorway and he put his head between my legs and began putting all his weight towards my bad ankle that I had surgery on in January and he just re-injured in July. difficult child started punching my legs and was trying to hit my mother whom was standing behind me. My mother walked out of the doorway and called the police so that difficult child would not know and the police could see him in action. They immediately come in, put him in cuffs and escort him out of my house.
My first thought was finally, I will get some help or relief from the situation. I had to fill out a affidavit and they contacted the probation officer. PO called me and told me that he would be detained and would have hearing on Friday. (This is good for me, right?) Less than 10 minutes later, PO calls back and says that he cannot detain him bc the police only charged him with Class C Misd Assault....a ticket that I have to pay!!! And I have to come pick him up.
When I arrived at the police dept, I am informed that if I restrain my child any further or spank him (There were NO bruises at all) like I did, I will be ARRESTED for assault!!!! (Are you kidding??? Now I can NOT even restrain my difficult child from assaulting me or destroying my house and if I discipline him, it is assault. What is this?)
I am furious and more frustrated than I have ever been. This is a joke. I told them to go ahead and arrest me bc then I would be able to get away from difficult child!
After difficult child went to bed that night, I left and drove around, found an empty parking lot, parked my car and cried myself to sleep. I was there for about 4 hours before I woke up and went home.
The next day difficult child tells me that the Officer and PO warned him about me starting something with him!!! (Can it get worse??? YEP) The dispatchers gave difficult child their personal cell phone numbers to call if there is a problem and the Officers told difficult child he can start going to church and there is NOTHING I can do about it and they would come pick him up to take him. ((UH...last time I checked, I gave birth to this difficult child and there is something I can do about it.)) I told difficult child that he could go to church, our Church. Of course he don't want to do that bc he don't want to face the Pastor who knows what he has done. They were also trying to get difficult child to attend a church of a different religion and told difficult child that I don't have to like it, I just have to deal with! (Seriously???)
Does anyone else see problems with the way the Police Dept and Dispatchers handled this situation? I can tell you that I am a 911 Operator/Dispatcher and this is crossing morale in regards to my job. I would be terminated or at the very least put on admin leave with-o pay for doing such an act.
thanks for letting me vent,
Deni
Thursday night, difficult child got upset bc his cousin changed the tv when he walked out of the room and they started to get into it when I stepped in between them to stop it. (Probably not smart on my part to get in between 2 14 yo boys but what else am I to do.) difficult child storms into his room slamming the door into the wall and putting a hole in the wall. I decided not to react to it bc I was extremely angry. When my mother came home, she was talking with my nephew about what had happened. difficult child is in his room screaming at my mother and banging on the walls. I went into his room, popped him on the arm and told him to quit hitting on the walls at which time he jumped in my face and swung hitting me in the arm. I pushed him to the bed not knowing what he was intending to do. He tried to come back up at me when I pushed him to the bed and was attempting to restrain him. He was able to manuever away from me and was trying to get out of his room. I was standing in the doorway and he put his head between my legs and began putting all his weight towards my bad ankle that I had surgery on in January and he just re-injured in July. difficult child started punching my legs and was trying to hit my mother whom was standing behind me. My mother walked out of the doorway and called the police so that difficult child would not know and the police could see him in action. They immediately come in, put him in cuffs and escort him out of my house.
My first thought was finally, I will get some help or relief from the situation. I had to fill out a affidavit and they contacted the probation officer. PO called me and told me that he would be detained and would have hearing on Friday. (This is good for me, right?) Less than 10 minutes later, PO calls back and says that he cannot detain him bc the police only charged him with Class C Misd Assault....a ticket that I have to pay!!! And I have to come pick him up.
When I arrived at the police dept, I am informed that if I restrain my child any further or spank him (There were NO bruises at all) like I did, I will be ARRESTED for assault!!!! (Are you kidding??? Now I can NOT even restrain my difficult child from assaulting me or destroying my house and if I discipline him, it is assault. What is this?)
I am furious and more frustrated than I have ever been. This is a joke. I told them to go ahead and arrest me bc then I would be able to get away from difficult child!
After difficult child went to bed that night, I left and drove around, found an empty parking lot, parked my car and cried myself to sleep. I was there for about 4 hours before I woke up and went home.
The next day difficult child tells me that the Officer and PO warned him about me starting something with him!!! (Can it get worse??? YEP) The dispatchers gave difficult child their personal cell phone numbers to call if there is a problem and the Officers told difficult child he can start going to church and there is NOTHING I can do about it and they would come pick him up to take him. ((UH...last time I checked, I gave birth to this difficult child and there is something I can do about it.)) I told difficult child that he could go to church, our Church. Of course he don't want to do that bc he don't want to face the Pastor who knows what he has done. They were also trying to get difficult child to attend a church of a different religion and told difficult child that I don't have to like it, I just have to deal with! (Seriously???)
Does anyone else see problems with the way the Police Dept and Dispatchers handled this situation? I can tell you that I am a 911 Operator/Dispatcher and this is crossing morale in regards to my job. I would be terminated or at the very least put on admin leave with-o pay for doing such an act.
thanks for letting me vent,
Deni