HopeRemains
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difficult child was irritated by easy child tonight- they were having a cousin stay over who is high rev like easy child and I think the littler ones just pushed him over the edge- he doesn't do high rev well. husband went in (they were all watching a movie camped out on the bedroom floor for bedtime) and saw just as difficult child stomped on easy child's stomache- not hard enough to make him cry, but still. husband didn't really do anything except threaten difficult child and segregate him to his bed- but I was upset when I found out what happened. difficult child was throwing a fit because he didn't want to sleep in his bed, so I gave him one more chance to stop screaming and crying or he would be grounded for a week (he was already acting up so badly that anything else was going to count triple against him). Well, he tested it and then was grounded for a week.
So screaming, blaming and all kids in seperate rooms later, difficult child is in his room still screaming. Going between blaming easy child and screaming at him (easy child is in MY room, but can still hear difficult child) to saying how stupid he is (difficult child) and that he can't go swimming tomorrow so he is going to kill himself. I hear him say that a few times and alert husband to it. husband goes in and talks to him. He gets the usual "You guys only care about easy child and my Mom is the only one who cares about me" junk. He started saying that he should kill himself about a year ago, not very often, but it upsets me everytime. I can't tell if he is just saying it to get our goats or because that's how he feels? Ugh. Next week I am bringing this up with the therapist. I have no idea how to respond to this.
On the bright side, since I have stopped using "timeouts" and instead just taken minutes off of his outside time we have had a MUCH better time this summer than I ever expected. Tonight was the first real throwdown in about 3 weeks!
So screaming, blaming and all kids in seperate rooms later, difficult child is in his room still screaming. Going between blaming easy child and screaming at him (easy child is in MY room, but can still hear difficult child) to saying how stupid he is (difficult child) and that he can't go swimming tomorrow so he is going to kill himself. I hear him say that a few times and alert husband to it. husband goes in and talks to him. He gets the usual "You guys only care about easy child and my Mom is the only one who cares about me" junk. He started saying that he should kill himself about a year ago, not very often, but it upsets me everytime. I can't tell if he is just saying it to get our goats or because that's how he feels? Ugh. Next week I am bringing this up with the therapist. I have no idea how to respond to this.
On the bright side, since I have stopped using "timeouts" and instead just taken minutes off of his outside time we have had a MUCH better time this summer than I ever expected. Tonight was the first real throwdown in about 3 weeks!