Marilynne
That is all we can do as parents. When we think something is wrong with our kids we go with our gut and fight.
You can never second guess any decisions you have made.
What I have found to be so beneficial is to start a journal of all of the family on both sides who had suspected issues, addictions whatever.
Even if they were not diagnosis'd.
I have had to go back and especially with husband family who all gloss it all over like it is just normal behaviour.
But we have found so many people on both sides with many cases of different Mental Illness, Addiction etc.
It was actually pretty scary.
The pills Aunt Mary has been popping for 20 years... well there is a reason! LOL
We looked at things that people put in the closet and tried to hide, the sexual abuse, weird things that went on.
The more info you have the easier it is to pinpoint why or what is going on with you child.
Or even yourself maybe!
It made it so clear to see my own BiPolar (BP) and PTSD.
You know what has helped me the most?
This place. Especially when I felt like I honestly could not take it.