First a little background . . . difficult child got her first paycheck from her job on Saturday. Well, it was actually cash because the owner of the salon said he didn't have all of her paperwork completed to put her on the payroll.
She called to tell me that she made $196 since it was a part-time week. She had to pay baack the director for giving her some cash to buy lunches the first week, and a couple of other people at the half way house who had bought her cigarettes. She said she had $150 left and volunteered to pay for her food and cigarettes until her next paycheck. She didn't mention the new phone that she had been planning to buy.
We needed to switch vehicles since we had gotten hers fixed. When we talked on the phone yesterday afternoon, she expressed concern for having that much cash at the halfway house. She wanted to wait until today to come over and switch vehicles so she could go to the bank. husband wanted his truck back, though, so we insisted that she bring the truck back and suggested she spend the night at her boyfriend's house rather than make the long drive back.
She called right before she left and I asked her if she wanted to bring the cash and I would deposit for her. She said no, that she was going to go to Walmart and get a prepaid Visa with the money instead. I said fine.
Still with me???
So difficult child came over last night and we switched vehicles. She told me that she had hidden the money in her room where no one would find it. She left and went to boyfriend's house.
Today, she texted me to tell me that the money had been stolen. I was gobsmacked (to use DDD's term). I texted back that I didn't think it was my problem. I then added that I didn't even know if I believed it.
She called and said that her roommate had spent the night out, too, and someone had gotten into the room and stolen money from both of them. I could hear her roommate in the background agreeing that is what happened. difficult child said she went to the director who told her he was really sorry that something was stolen again but that she was living with addicts who didn't have jobs and that's what they do. He did say he would replace the lock to something more secure.
Here's where I need your help. I can think of three scenarios here.
1) difficult child is lying and keeping the money to buy drugs and alcohol. However, she is still being drug tested and I have no evidence that this is true.
2) difficult child is lying to get us to buy her food and cigarettes so she can buy fun things with the money.
3) difficult child is telling the truth.
If she is telling the truth, then I would be willing to help her with the groceries and cigarettes. Especially since we insisted that she come over last night instead of staying there with her money like she wanted to. If she is lying, I don't want to be played.
So what do you all think??
~Kathy
She called to tell me that she made $196 since it was a part-time week. She had to pay baack the director for giving her some cash to buy lunches the first week, and a couple of other people at the half way house who had bought her cigarettes. She said she had $150 left and volunteered to pay for her food and cigarettes until her next paycheck. She didn't mention the new phone that she had been planning to buy.
We needed to switch vehicles since we had gotten hers fixed. When we talked on the phone yesterday afternoon, she expressed concern for having that much cash at the halfway house. She wanted to wait until today to come over and switch vehicles so she could go to the bank. husband wanted his truck back, though, so we insisted that she bring the truck back and suggested she spend the night at her boyfriend's house rather than make the long drive back.
She called right before she left and I asked her if she wanted to bring the cash and I would deposit for her. She said no, that she was going to go to Walmart and get a prepaid Visa with the money instead. I said fine.
Still with me???
So difficult child came over last night and we switched vehicles. She told me that she had hidden the money in her room where no one would find it. She left and went to boyfriend's house.
Today, she texted me to tell me that the money had been stolen. I was gobsmacked (to use DDD's term). I texted back that I didn't think it was my problem. I then added that I didn't even know if I believed it.
She called and said that her roommate had spent the night out, too, and someone had gotten into the room and stolen money from both of them. I could hear her roommate in the background agreeing that is what happened. difficult child said she went to the director who told her he was really sorry that something was stolen again but that she was living with addicts who didn't have jobs and that's what they do. He did say he would replace the lock to something more secure.
Here's where I need your help. I can think of three scenarios here.
1) difficult child is lying and keeping the money to buy drugs and alcohol. However, she is still being drug tested and I have no evidence that this is true.
2) difficult child is lying to get us to buy her food and cigarettes so she can buy fun things with the money.
3) difficult child is telling the truth.
If she is telling the truth, then I would be willing to help her with the groceries and cigarettes. Especially since we insisted that she come over last night instead of staying there with her money like she wanted to. If she is lying, I don't want to be played.
So what do you all think??
~Kathy
