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toughlovin
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Hi all,
Well it didn't take long for my son to now be kicked out of the down and out sober house!!! You all knew this was coming and I did too.... although I thought it wouldn't happen until Wednesday. And of course my son conned me again... he texted me this morning asking me to text him when I had added money to the grocery card. I took the sober house guys advice and only put $25 on and texted him that and said I would put the rest on it on Thursday assuming he was clean. Well then I got a call from the sober house guy.... they found paraphanalia, and some spice in his things. He has been converting the grocery card to a shell station card (where I bet he can buy spice even though it is illegal there). And he has been stealing others food!!! So he is out of there. Sigh. I told the guy no way are we paying for another sober house. At this point we will only help him with treatment. Oh and he told the sober house guy he is not an addict!!! Really??? Come on you have now been kicked out of 3 sober houses because of using!!!!
So I felt resolved not to help him out at all until he really wants treatment. I did check with the grocery store hoping I could put a stop to that $25... but it was too late. So I feel conned and taken advantage of once again. I am so fed up and disgusted and wishing I had gotten tougher sooner!!!! However I remind myself we all have to go through this process our own way. My husband is there with me. So we are resolved to just let him live on the street even though our big fear is he won't make it.
I was thinking about abandonment issues. I think these are particularly acute for adopted kids... and for us parents. I am so aware of the issues of abandonment that i am bending way over backwards for him not to feel abandoned!!! Over doing it I am sure.
So the sober house guy told me he would have another guy at yet another tx center call me. And he did.... he himself was an addict and also lost a brother to addiction... which of course scares me.. and he commented that spice can kill you. Great!! Anyway i did look up the program on the internet and it looks like a good program and given that it is the start of the year maybe our insurance would cover it.
Anyway I gave him my sons number and he is going to call him. I figure I am not setting up anything for difficult child... but I will give his number out and maybe if he gets desperate enough he will listen to this guy. Who knows.
So that is where we are at.... I suspect we wont hear from difficult child until he is going into treatment. Wonder how long that will take?
I am ok... trying to hold it together for the sake of my daughter right now.
TL
Well it didn't take long for my son to now be kicked out of the down and out sober house!!! You all knew this was coming and I did too.... although I thought it wouldn't happen until Wednesday. And of course my son conned me again... he texted me this morning asking me to text him when I had added money to the grocery card. I took the sober house guys advice and only put $25 on and texted him that and said I would put the rest on it on Thursday assuming he was clean. Well then I got a call from the sober house guy.... they found paraphanalia, and some spice in his things. He has been converting the grocery card to a shell station card (where I bet he can buy spice even though it is illegal there). And he has been stealing others food!!! So he is out of there. Sigh. I told the guy no way are we paying for another sober house. At this point we will only help him with treatment. Oh and he told the sober house guy he is not an addict!!! Really??? Come on you have now been kicked out of 3 sober houses because of using!!!!
So I felt resolved not to help him out at all until he really wants treatment. I did check with the grocery store hoping I could put a stop to that $25... but it was too late. So I feel conned and taken advantage of once again. I am so fed up and disgusted and wishing I had gotten tougher sooner!!!! However I remind myself we all have to go through this process our own way. My husband is there with me. So we are resolved to just let him live on the street even though our big fear is he won't make it.
I was thinking about abandonment issues. I think these are particularly acute for adopted kids... and for us parents. I am so aware of the issues of abandonment that i am bending way over backwards for him not to feel abandoned!!! Over doing it I am sure.
So the sober house guy told me he would have another guy at yet another tx center call me. And he did.... he himself was an addict and also lost a brother to addiction... which of course scares me.. and he commented that spice can kill you. Great!! Anyway i did look up the program on the internet and it looks like a good program and given that it is the start of the year maybe our insurance would cover it.
Anyway I gave him my sons number and he is going to call him. I figure I am not setting up anything for difficult child... but I will give his number out and maybe if he gets desperate enough he will listen to this guy. Who knows.
So that is where we are at.... I suspect we wont hear from difficult child until he is going into treatment. Wonder how long that will take?
I am ok... trying to hold it together for the sake of my daughter right now.
TL