I think as manster is approaching 12 and adolesence is in full force, the reality and noticability of his differentness is greater. I am fighting every day for him to get outside his comfort zone which seems to be getting smaller instead of bigger. He doesn't want to go anywhere or do anything, especially if it involves other people. husband is still not fully on board. When I allow manster to "win" a battle, husband gets mad at me and says I'm allowing myself to be manipulated. For instance we are playing tennis later with some friends and manster pitched a fit/meltdown about not wanting to go and begged that we allow him to do his WI fit instead since the main reason we want him to play is the exercise. I can't fight both these battles all the time. I let him manster off the hook and now husband is in a mood. Today I am anxiety ridden about the future and not feeling too good about the present either. I like to think i'm doing the best I can but maybe I should fight more and take these battles to the end despite the exhaustion they bring. Don't know what I'm looking for except perhaps another way of looking at this.