There were many long, long nights I lied in my bed awake and didn't dare to hope this day would ever come. But it did! And what a glorious feeling it is. My baby graduated from high school and is done with school for now. And he did it with extremely good grades and scores. When he is done with his sport career and decides to go back to school, those results will keep all the doors open for him. I'm so very proud of him! After all the struggles, all the fight to even get him to school, all the koi - he did it! Also a party went just fine. We were able to polish our manners with our shoes and turn on our 'discreet charm.' Even mother in law was an epitome of proud granny. With that I'm grateful for difficult child deciding to invite also his girlfriend's parents. I'm not sure mother in law would had bothered to behave just to honour difficult child but to impress those new people, sure. Though she certainly did throw a fit in the way to the party. Bad enough for father in law needing to stop the car and her getting out of car and starting to walk back home, in snowstorm and 10F, in her high heels and about 100 miles away from home. I think I have before claimed that there are no gfgness in husband's family tree. I may need to take a rain check for that... But as I said, she was a perfect granny in the party, also husband played a proud daddy to a tee and even difficult child was able to let his tough fall in sports go and show happy face. And the food was good - that is always big with mine, when not feed well things tend to turn bad. difficult child didn't go to his graduation ceremony but I did go to pick up his diploma so he would have that in the party and not have it come with mail some time next week. difficult child also cleaned the award and grant table quite thoroughly, apparently their fall graduate bunch wasn't that impressive so difficult child ended up almost his two month salary worth of awards and grants. Good for him. Even if difficult child wanted to keep this hush and only wanted small party etc. he got congratulated by many. His team and his team mates made a thing out of it and he got some very thoughtful gifts and he had received surprisingly many cards and even gifts from many people like former coaches, team mates etc. Even from the team he was kicked out from because his own actions. I really hope difficult child took a note of underlying message on them, or in some even very out spelled message, that he does matter, not only his performance. I think it easy to anyone in very competitive environment start to consider their worth depending from their performance and achievements. And with someone like difficult child who has very low self-worth it is given. And having so tough time with his sport performance this fall really has made a number of difficult child emotionally. Even me and husband were able to talk about difficult child and things leading there we are now without a fight first time in long time after a party. We were in fact able to make up a bit and agree we need some marital counselling. husband even admitted he has tough time relating difficult child. That is a start I guess. I'm quite emotional over this. In our culture graduation is huge milestone, much bigger than for example turning 18. Till they graduate they are school children, after that they are truly considered young adults. And with difficult child graduating we even got back some normalcy. Now we don't have to explain why difficult child is out of home. Now it is just normal, he is done with school and moved out to take a next step in his life. Just like everyone else's kids.