klmno
Active Member
Hi, everyone! I'm getting a little antsy again. I'm supposed to meet difficult child's parole officer on Monday and sign some agreement- for what I don't know. I called and left a message for him earlier this week but he never called back or sent a copy of the "agreement". I called and left a message for difficult child's cm at the state Department of Juvenile Justice (where difficult child is right now) and she never called back either. I wanted to ask her about standard protocol for tranistion planning and some other things.
difficult child's staffing meeting is on Tuesday- this is when they "decide" (really- I think it's "announce") what difficult child's length of stay range is and where he is going and what program he'll be required to complete (ie- anger management, substance abuse, etc). So....here is the same ole carp of them using the strategy of waiting until the 11th hour before springing something on the parent to either sign or refuse. SIGH. I will never understand how the very people who are supposed to be helping people understand negative patterns and break them are the very ones who'll handle things in a way that creates tension and defensiveness and bad attitudes to begin with.
I do feel like I've failed my son. The problem is that there hasn't been a single person in Department of Juvenile Justice to date that I think has made better decisions or done more for him or us or even seems to really care about what is in his best interest. But, I guess I'll be dealing with it all in one way or another until difficult child is grown.
Please keep us in your thoughts as I try to stay busy this weekend and Monday and prepare myself for whatever might happen.
The letter I received from difficult child this week said there are a lot of gang members in there. He said he is trying to stay away from them but it's hard. Also, he said the other kids think he's in there for a sexual offense (just rumor- no truth) so he's having a rough time staying out of trouble. Apparently, he hasn't gotten into any trouble as of yet but he's worried about ending up in a fight and getting more time in as a result. I'm worried about him getting caught up in a gang, which would follow him when he's released.
difficult child's staffing meeting is on Tuesday- this is when they "decide" (really- I think it's "announce") what difficult child's length of stay range is and where he is going and what program he'll be required to complete (ie- anger management, substance abuse, etc). So....here is the same ole carp of them using the strategy of waiting until the 11th hour before springing something on the parent to either sign or refuse. SIGH. I will never understand how the very people who are supposed to be helping people understand negative patterns and break them are the very ones who'll handle things in a way that creates tension and defensiveness and bad attitudes to begin with.
I do feel like I've failed my son. The problem is that there hasn't been a single person in Department of Juvenile Justice to date that I think has made better decisions or done more for him or us or even seems to really care about what is in his best interest. But, I guess I'll be dealing with it all in one way or another until difficult child is grown.
Please keep us in your thoughts as I try to stay busy this weekend and Monday and prepare myself for whatever might happen.
The letter I received from difficult child this week said there are a lot of gang members in there. He said he is trying to stay away from them but it's hard. Also, he said the other kids think he's in there for a sexual offense (just rumor- no truth) so he's having a rough time staying out of trouble. Apparently, he hasn't gotten into any trouble as of yet but he's worried about ending up in a fight and getting more time in as a result. I'm worried about him getting caught up in a gang, which would follow him when he's released.