Seems like my DS is making a real effort to comply with the expectations that have been laid out to him. He has been doing the chores that we ask (without being told) and has gotten a job. He started this past Monday. I have never been one of those "everybody gets a trophy" parents. I do and have praised my kids, but only when I feel that it's deserved. I don't believe in praise for doing the bare minimum. I feel like what my son is now doing at age almost-23 is the bare minimum, and he only began to do these things once he was given an ultimatum. So, despite the anxiety and depression, he's sort of proven that he's capable of doing these thing; he's just chosen not to until now. So, to praise or not to praise? I'm happy that he's finally doing something with himself, but I'm not exactly "proud." You shouldn't have to be threatened with homelessness to do your share. Thoughts?