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Ok, I really need to journal about some things and would appreciate your thoughts.
Annoying on Purpose: Do they all do this? The constant demands for attention gets tiring. You can't just pretend to listen with this kid because if he senses he's lost you, he'll quiz you. For instance: what did I just say mom? Also the obnoxious behavior, the in your face pester pester pester gets old.
The separation anxiety: How long will this last? He is almost 10 now and still gets uncomfortable if he's alone on one level of the house. If we try to talk about it with therapist he denies it.
The constant bombardment with questions. Kind of like when they're 4 and no matter how many times you answer there is another "but why"; the what ifs ad nausem (sp).
The power eating. I believe this is sensory related. He's become a food addict and he's visibly overweight. He's still 9 and wears a 12 huskey. Since he's someone who is overly concerned about others noticing him it will be quite difficult for him when they start teasing him. I'm trying to get firm on the eating only at the table but I had gotten into bad and lazy habits and boy are they hard to change. It wouldn't be so bad if he got more exercise but getting him outdoors isn't easy unless one of his friends comes over.
There was an enlightening moment this week. He told me "mom, I'm very sensitive, I'm so sensitive that when people raise their voices just a little with me it feels like they're yelling at me and it makes me sad". I'm trying to use that to explain to him that his overreactions to things might be related. I don't say it like that of course but I'm trying to help him take some responsibility for his feelings. He gets mad at me for the slightest infraction whether perceived or real. Of course they are real to him.
So I guess what I want to know is, are these within "normal" gfgness. Are these typical? Can anyone else relate? Any suggestions, etc.
Thanks for any insights or affirmation.
ML
Annoying on Purpose: Do they all do this? The constant demands for attention gets tiring. You can't just pretend to listen with this kid because if he senses he's lost you, he'll quiz you. For instance: what did I just say mom? Also the obnoxious behavior, the in your face pester pester pester gets old.
The separation anxiety: How long will this last? He is almost 10 now and still gets uncomfortable if he's alone on one level of the house. If we try to talk about it with therapist he denies it.
The constant bombardment with questions. Kind of like when they're 4 and no matter how many times you answer there is another "but why"; the what ifs ad nausem (sp).
The power eating. I believe this is sensory related. He's become a food addict and he's visibly overweight. He's still 9 and wears a 12 huskey. Since he's someone who is overly concerned about others noticing him it will be quite difficult for him when they start teasing him. I'm trying to get firm on the eating only at the table but I had gotten into bad and lazy habits and boy are they hard to change. It wouldn't be so bad if he got more exercise but getting him outdoors isn't easy unless one of his friends comes over.
There was an enlightening moment this week. He told me "mom, I'm very sensitive, I'm so sensitive that when people raise their voices just a little with me it feels like they're yelling at me and it makes me sad". I'm trying to use that to explain to him that his overreactions to things might be related. I don't say it like that of course but I'm trying to help him take some responsibility for his feelings. He gets mad at me for the slightest infraction whether perceived or real. Of course they are real to him.
So I guess what I want to know is, are these within "normal" gfgness. Are these typical? Can anyone else relate? Any suggestions, etc.
Thanks for any insights or affirmation.
ML