TerryJ2
Well-Known Member
Well, it's done.
difficult child was really angry with-me yesterday. The principal informed him of the ISS because he hadn't fulfilled his contract. Defeatest that he is, he insists he's going to be in ISS for the rest of the yr, because he just knows he'll forget something else on the contract, such as showing the principal his planner every Friday.
We told him he could be out of it by Thurs. afternoon.
He said he's not going to school for the rest of the yr. I asked him what he hoped to accomplish by that. He said he didn't care.
He screamed and yelled at me for an entire hr. His life is a mess and it's my fault. It's MY fault that the police came to begin with (What? He finally realized it had to do with-the neighbors) but it's MY fault that the next time they come, they will take him to juvie because 3 strikes and you're out, and I called them the 2nd time. All he was doing was trying to TALK to me and I called the police! And "You know I didn't mean it when I threatened to kill you!"
Okay, so, he finally got that all out of his system, except that he said I convinced husband to agree to the ISS (like he can't think on his own) and only slightly blamed the principal. I pointed out to him that there is a pattern in his behavior and that is what we are basing our opinions on.
He insisted there was no pattern, and I asked if he knew what a pattern was, and he yelled, "YES!" and drew lines in every other square of his school planner to prove it to me, LOL!
One of the items on the contract list is a missing set of science flash cards. I told him he needs to re-write them. There are only 10 or so. He insisted it wasn't fair but I said it was the most expedient thing to do.
I also told him he could earn computer time (we'd taken away the TV antenna and the computer mouse) if he completed his book report. He finally decided to do that, so he finished hand writing it, then typed in the first paragraph.
Whew.
After dinner, husband wanted to talk about it and difficult child did not want to talk, so we pretty much went over the whole thing all over again.
In the end, he mumbled that he would just have to live through the next two days.
WOO HOO! We finally got through to him. It's just two days. And it's from "your" behavior, not ours.
I KNOW all the work will be done. It's easy stuff. It's all about his attitude. He will earn back the TV antenna and the mouse.
I have to admit, I was stressed, had two glasses of wine, and went to bed at 8:45. (This, on top of my cousin being released from rehab this wk and it's up to me to find home care that she will allow into her apt. Last time, she refused them, and of course, she fell again.)
difficult child was really angry with-me yesterday. The principal informed him of the ISS because he hadn't fulfilled his contract. Defeatest that he is, he insists he's going to be in ISS for the rest of the yr, because he just knows he'll forget something else on the contract, such as showing the principal his planner every Friday.
We told him he could be out of it by Thurs. afternoon.
He said he's not going to school for the rest of the yr. I asked him what he hoped to accomplish by that. He said he didn't care.
He screamed and yelled at me for an entire hr. His life is a mess and it's my fault. It's MY fault that the police came to begin with (What? He finally realized it had to do with-the neighbors) but it's MY fault that the next time they come, they will take him to juvie because 3 strikes and you're out, and I called them the 2nd time. All he was doing was trying to TALK to me and I called the police! And "You know I didn't mean it when I threatened to kill you!"
Okay, so, he finally got that all out of his system, except that he said I convinced husband to agree to the ISS (like he can't think on his own) and only slightly blamed the principal. I pointed out to him that there is a pattern in his behavior and that is what we are basing our opinions on.
He insisted there was no pattern, and I asked if he knew what a pattern was, and he yelled, "YES!" and drew lines in every other square of his school planner to prove it to me, LOL!
One of the items on the contract list is a missing set of science flash cards. I told him he needs to re-write them. There are only 10 or so. He insisted it wasn't fair but I said it was the most expedient thing to do.
I also told him he could earn computer time (we'd taken away the TV antenna and the computer mouse) if he completed his book report. He finally decided to do that, so he finished hand writing it, then typed in the first paragraph.
Whew.
After dinner, husband wanted to talk about it and difficult child did not want to talk, so we pretty much went over the whole thing all over again.
In the end, he mumbled that he would just have to live through the next two days.
WOO HOO! We finally got through to him. It's just two days. And it's from "your" behavior, not ours.
I KNOW all the work will be done. It's easy stuff. It's all about his attitude. He will earn back the TV antenna and the mouse.
I have to admit, I was stressed, had two glasses of wine, and went to bed at 8:45. (This, on top of my cousin being released from rehab this wk and it's up to me to find home care that she will allow into her apt. Last time, she refused them, and of course, she fell again.)