So since difficult child has decided to move back here we have been getting along really well. She has been considerate to me and husband and I haven't seen any drama between her and easy child other than normal sister stuff. Of course she is still a teenager so I have to remind her about chores and things but I don't have to yell or fuss all day. We did have to remind her that we would appreciate her coming home around 10 on weeknights and no later than 12 on weekends. This is not because we want to give her a curfew it is because when she comes in the dogs bark and wake the whole house up. My husband is military and I go to work at 7AM so we really appreciate our sleep. For mothers day she got me a plant I was really wanting and a card that was really sweet. We went to Mt Ranier and spent the whole day there with no issues. It was really a nice day. The first time in 18 years I have done what I wanted on Mothers Day and not what would work for everyone else. Granted husband , difficult child, and I all love the outdoors so hiking a mountain is our thing. On the other hand easy child not a happy camper. LOL she hates to move. Now for the reason for the mixed emotions. difficult child has not gotten a job. I know there are several available in areas where she could work without prior training. She is to good to work at McDonalds in her opinion and refuses to apply for fast food jobs. She did apply for several starter level federal jobs but those can takes weeks to months to hire you and she only plans to stay for the summer. I think husband and I are going to sit down with her tonight and remind her she has been here for 3 weeks and she needs to get a job by week 4. No more laying around in bed and asking for spending money. I understand it takes time to get a job so I am not angry it is taking time I just am irritated that she doesn't seem to be putting out much effort. So I am stuck with having a good relationship with her for the time being but being irritated because she isn't actively looking for a job. Would it be fair to ask her to apply to atleast 4 places a day? We live in a large metropolitan area there is no reason she couldn't get a mall job or a retail job somewhere.