If you read my other thread, you know that we had TG at our home with a rather large gathering.
It was largely family with some friends of family mixed in there....it made for a large group and a rather diverse / eclectic array of people...to say the least. Some of these folks have oddball issues of jealousy, low self esteem, insecurities, weak social skills...and of course, some are much better. As a side note: Some of nicest folks were the ones more distant in the family and their friends.
Everyone brought at least one food item, but since it was at our home, we did most of the cooking...and of course, all of the set up. I did my best to make it super cute for TG, with lots of related decorations and fall colors. One person in particular, helped a lot.
Ok, the crux of the question. At some point, someone said "Let's get a group photo." People were slowly moving toward the living room. My husband did not hear until the very last minute. I did hear, but ran into the nearby bedroom and put on my lipstick...a horrible error in judgment and in retrospect, stupid. I believe I was only one minute gone. The bedroom is next to the living room. I suppose I thought in retrospect, if somehow all those folks made it to the living room faster than I could put on my lipstick, they would call me in (and maybe chastise me) before they took the photo since it was my/our home.
As I was entering the living room from one side, I saw my husband entering the living room from the opposite end. We literally had our feet INTO the living room. All of a sudden we both heard the camera "click." The photo was taken and the crowd dispersed. The person who took the photo, sat down and quickly sent it to a person in the group who tends to do all the FB type postings. (If it isn't on FB, did it happen? Maybe NOT! LOLOL) I wasn't in the photo, nor was my husband, nor was the person my husband was speaking to and there were a few other missing people. The person who took the photo got in his immediate family .
Shortly afterward, my husband managed to get a separate photo of us and our immediate family that was also used together with the other one.
I didn't say a word, because I was embarrassed that I left for that quick moment....in retrospect, I simply should not of done that. I DO think they should of called me though. We are only talking about seconds. If it were me and I was in that situation, I definitely would of called the host to be in the photo. My husband was very upset and bewildered. By the time he came to see what was going on in the living room, the photo was taken.
NOT ONE PERSON stopped to say let's get Mr and Mrs Nomad in the picture. Not one person said "Let's take another photo so Mr and Mrs Nomad can be in the picture." Not one person asked if we would like another photo taken.
Again, I would of said something, but I was embarrassed. But, it still felt weird as heck. I'm glad we got a very nice separate family photo and honestly, it worked out very well.
Obviously, I think tooooo much. But, what the heck is this? We sometimes think these folks are clueless. Classless, thoughless, etc. Yes, I think I might call it clueless and thoughtless.
Any thoughts?
PS Due to privacy issues, I may ask that this post be removed in part or in its entirety.
It was largely family with some friends of family mixed in there....it made for a large group and a rather diverse / eclectic array of people...to say the least. Some of these folks have oddball issues of jealousy, low self esteem, insecurities, weak social skills...and of course, some are much better. As a side note: Some of nicest folks were the ones more distant in the family and their friends.
Everyone brought at least one food item, but since it was at our home, we did most of the cooking...and of course, all of the set up. I did my best to make it super cute for TG, with lots of related decorations and fall colors. One person in particular, helped a lot.
Ok, the crux of the question. At some point, someone said "Let's get a group photo." People were slowly moving toward the living room. My husband did not hear until the very last minute. I did hear, but ran into the nearby bedroom and put on my lipstick...a horrible error in judgment and in retrospect, stupid. I believe I was only one minute gone. The bedroom is next to the living room. I suppose I thought in retrospect, if somehow all those folks made it to the living room faster than I could put on my lipstick, they would call me in (and maybe chastise me) before they took the photo since it was my/our home.
As I was entering the living room from one side, I saw my husband entering the living room from the opposite end. We literally had our feet INTO the living room. All of a sudden we both heard the camera "click." The photo was taken and the crowd dispersed. The person who took the photo, sat down and quickly sent it to a person in the group who tends to do all the FB type postings. (If it isn't on FB, did it happen? Maybe NOT! LOLOL) I wasn't in the photo, nor was my husband, nor was the person my husband was speaking to and there were a few other missing people. The person who took the photo got in his immediate family .
Shortly afterward, my husband managed to get a separate photo of us and our immediate family that was also used together with the other one.
I didn't say a word, because I was embarrassed that I left for that quick moment....in retrospect, I simply should not of done that. I DO think they should of called me though. We are only talking about seconds. If it were me and I was in that situation, I definitely would of called the host to be in the photo. My husband was very upset and bewildered. By the time he came to see what was going on in the living room, the photo was taken.
NOT ONE PERSON stopped to say let's get Mr and Mrs Nomad in the picture. Not one person said "Let's take another photo so Mr and Mrs Nomad can be in the picture." Not one person asked if we would like another photo taken.
Again, I would of said something, but I was embarrassed. But, it still felt weird as heck. I'm glad we got a very nice separate family photo and honestly, it worked out very well.
Obviously, I think tooooo much. But, what the heck is this? We sometimes think these folks are clueless. Classless, thoughless, etc. Yes, I think I might call it clueless and thoughtless.
Any thoughts?
PS Due to privacy issues, I may ask that this post be removed in part or in its entirety.