nerfherder
Active Member
I am tossing back and forth between the various forms of Guardianship and making Kiddo a Ward of the State.
My thinking: I am 50 now. Good health, physically strong, able to manage Kiddo physically when she throws a tantrum. I have backup from the Blacksmith when needed. However.
With her pilfering, and any other behavioral changes that come to pass down the road, how liable will I be legally if she breaks the law? If she steals or damages something of real monetary value? I don't have much, very little in fact of any kind of asset, and I like that and plan to stay that way. But from watching other local parents who have to deal with adult children who are bipolar or otherwise functionally disabled, and seeing how much they have to spend on lawyers, legal fees, bail, etc... I just want no part of that at all. I can't be on top of her 24/7, I can't assume any assigned caregivers can keep her out of trouble if she wants it badly enough.
My thinking: If I have her made Ward of the State once she's out of school (with guardianship of some kind in place to cover the gap in time between) I can at least be there to see and report if things go wrong, so by the time I'm incapable of being that kind of manager I'll know I can die and have reduced the likelyhood of her slipping through the cracks - and/or her big sister can take over if she chooses. Her dad would probably pitch in to some extent, but he's not trustworthy to give her the kind of focus that keeps her safe enough (and he's aware of that.)
All opinions, thoughts and experiences are appreciated, thank you.
My thinking: I am 50 now. Good health, physically strong, able to manage Kiddo physically when she throws a tantrum. I have backup from the Blacksmith when needed. However.
With her pilfering, and any other behavioral changes that come to pass down the road, how liable will I be legally if she breaks the law? If she steals or damages something of real monetary value? I don't have much, very little in fact of any kind of asset, and I like that and plan to stay that way. But from watching other local parents who have to deal with adult children who are bipolar or otherwise functionally disabled, and seeing how much they have to spend on lawyers, legal fees, bail, etc... I just want no part of that at all. I can't be on top of her 24/7, I can't assume any assigned caregivers can keep her out of trouble if she wants it badly enough.
My thinking: If I have her made Ward of the State once she's out of school (with guardianship of some kind in place to cover the gap in time between) I can at least be there to see and report if things go wrong, so by the time I'm incapable of being that kind of manager I'll know I can die and have reduced the likelyhood of her slipping through the cracks - and/or her big sister can take over if she chooses. Her dad would probably pitch in to some extent, but he's not trustworthy to give her the kind of focus that keeps her safe enough (and he's aware of that.)
All opinions, thoughts and experiences are appreciated, thank you.