Hello all. I hate that it's been a while since I've been on here and now I pop in asking for advice. I'm at my wits end and I don't know what to do. I'm hoping someone on here will have suggestions. I'm currently waiting for a return call from my son's psychiatrist and in the meantime I'm just sitting here wondering what to do next.
My son is 10 years old. He has been diagnosed with Asperger's and possibly Adhd. His current counselor believes he has adhd, mostly because his behavior can be extremely impulsive, but we don't have anything official with that diagnosis yet. My husband deployed a week ago. My 10 year old currently takes 20 mg Prozac, down from 30 mg about 6 months ago. My husband and I both knew this deployment was going to be a challenge for our son but the first few days after husband left were really good days and so I was hopeful that everything would be ok. The last three days have been a totally different story though. He has been mouthy, really impatient, super sensitive and disrespectful. When I gave him consequences for his behavior (loss of certain privileges) he has turned physical. He has called me names, pushed me, tried to hit me in the face several times. He has screamed, yelled, told me he is running away and today he told me he is going to kill me. Once he calmed down, he told me that he didn't mean he was going to kill me, he was just really mad. While he was saying he was going to kill me, he was trying to turn over the living room couch and just about succeeded. His behavior right now is so unpredictable. We don't have any family nearby. My mom has offered to drive the 4 hours to come stay with us for a few days until he calms down. I've called his psychiatric doctor, even though we just saw him a few days ago and everything had been ok at that point so I don't know what he will offer to do. Maybe change medications? Different dose on current medication?
He wants to blame me for everything right now. He tells me that everything that he does is my fault. He refuses to accept any responsibility. He has been like this to a certain extent before my husband left, especially leading up to the day husband left, but not as severe as this. We knew this was going to be a big transition for him and we all know how transitions go with these kids but I need some peace in my home asap! This is the kind of behavior we saw 2-3 years ago, daily, before he was diagnosed and before medication and therapy. I feel we have taken a HUGE step back. I've even been looking into residential treatment facilities in case this kind of behavior continues. There is only so much I can take/tolerate in my home. I've found one that seems really good that is about 45 minutes away and it is on my "back up plan" list but I really want to get a hold on this myself if possible.
Any advice will be greatly appreciated!!
My son is 10 years old. He has been diagnosed with Asperger's and possibly Adhd. His current counselor believes he has adhd, mostly because his behavior can be extremely impulsive, but we don't have anything official with that diagnosis yet. My husband deployed a week ago. My 10 year old currently takes 20 mg Prozac, down from 30 mg about 6 months ago. My husband and I both knew this deployment was going to be a challenge for our son but the first few days after husband left were really good days and so I was hopeful that everything would be ok. The last three days have been a totally different story though. He has been mouthy, really impatient, super sensitive and disrespectful. When I gave him consequences for his behavior (loss of certain privileges) he has turned physical. He has called me names, pushed me, tried to hit me in the face several times. He has screamed, yelled, told me he is running away and today he told me he is going to kill me. Once he calmed down, he told me that he didn't mean he was going to kill me, he was just really mad. While he was saying he was going to kill me, he was trying to turn over the living room couch and just about succeeded. His behavior right now is so unpredictable. We don't have any family nearby. My mom has offered to drive the 4 hours to come stay with us for a few days until he calms down. I've called his psychiatric doctor, even though we just saw him a few days ago and everything had been ok at that point so I don't know what he will offer to do. Maybe change medications? Different dose on current medication?
He wants to blame me for everything right now. He tells me that everything that he does is my fault. He refuses to accept any responsibility. He has been like this to a certain extent before my husband left, especially leading up to the day husband left, but not as severe as this. We knew this was going to be a big transition for him and we all know how transitions go with these kids but I need some peace in my home asap! This is the kind of behavior we saw 2-3 years ago, daily, before he was diagnosed and before medication and therapy. I feel we have taken a HUGE step back. I've even been looking into residential treatment facilities in case this kind of behavior continues. There is only so much I can take/tolerate in my home. I've found one that seems really good that is about 45 minutes away and it is on my "back up plan" list but I really want to get a hold on this myself if possible.
Any advice will be greatly appreciated!!