As most of you know, I am pretty new to this forum and have no disgnosis for my daughter yet. evaluations Are on the way. I am getting quite frustrated with my husband as he doesnt seem to acknowledge that our daughter isn't you average child...she does not respond to time outs, loss of toys/priveleges, and as ashamed as I am to say this, not even a spanking on the butt. These things just don't work for her. She desires the "fight" (although I do not belive that she can control this desire).
My husband does not see either of us during the week - only the weekend. Given this, I really (and maybe wrongly) expect him to listen to me (as I need to vent), and at the very least not scream at the child telling (as he hasn't had to deal with anything all week) her she is lucky that "he is not her mother!!" This doesn't phase her (at leat that you can see, but may hurt emotionally?) and really bothers me....feels like he thinks that I am not doing a good job at raising her...and that I really am alone in this...although we are married and have a family.
I truly feel alone when he is here...even mroe so than when he is at work during the week. It is soooo frustrating and he simply doesnt realize both the emotional and physical toll it has on me to raise her "alone" during the week. Doesn't feel good.
I am just wondering if this is typical of most husband's. I know men are wired differently than women...am I expecting too much of him and should I just let his lack of support on this slide?
My husband does not see either of us during the week - only the weekend. Given this, I really (and maybe wrongly) expect him to listen to me (as I need to vent), and at the very least not scream at the child telling (as he hasn't had to deal with anything all week) her she is lucky that "he is not her mother!!" This doesn't phase her (at leat that you can see, but may hurt emotionally?) and really bothers me....feels like he thinks that I am not doing a good job at raising her...and that I really am alone in this...although we are married and have a family.
I truly feel alone when he is here...even mroe so than when he is at work during the week. It is soooo frustrating and he simply doesnt realize both the emotional and physical toll it has on me to raise her "alone" during the week. Doesn't feel good.
I am just wondering if this is typical of most husband's. I know men are wired differently than women...am I expecting too much of him and should I just let his lack of support on this slide?