easy child 2/difficult child 2's ex-boyfriend has hair like this. He grew it long at easy child 2/difficult child 2's request. Still hadn't cut it when difficult child 1 got married (he was one of the groomsmen - talk about awkward!). We used to spend hours trying to get the knots out of his hair, then we found that the Garnier Nutrisse "Sleek and Shine" smoothing serum that comes in a ball container worked well (except his hair used to drink it). Then in an Asian food supply place that used to be near our house, I found bottles of scented coconut oil from Fiji - and guess what they use it for? Hair taming! Of course in Fiji, the stuff is liquid all the time. Right now the bottles are in my bathroom and they're solid. I store them lying down so I can always get at the contents even if I have to scrape it out with a spatula. I use it as a moisturiser on my skin.
BF2 (easy child 2/difficult child 2's fiance) has afro hair too, he looks after it better than the ex, though. He's talking about getting it cut for the wedding, easy child 2/difficult child 2 is trying to talk him into straightening it instead so he can have it pulled back into a ponytail. I just want them to have wedding photos that they will be happy to show their kids in years to come, I don't want their dad being embarrassed by long hair not in control.
Marg