klmno
Active Member
This is a boy around 6yo and apparently has a diagnosis of maybe ADHD, Pervasive Developmental Disorder (PDD), both, or something similar. From what I gather, the parents are knowledgable enough to be working with someone (psychiatrist, early sd interventions, I don't know) but based ona brief mention by my landlord and a brief introduction from the Mom, they realize they have a special needs child and a child who is difficult to raise. Fine. I don't need to know their personal business, obviously, but when the parents were introducing themselves and giving me a brief "explanation" about their child, I mentioned that I understood and have a son myself that has posed many challenges, yadda, yadda, yadda.
What is bothering me is that about every 3 days there is a major yelling 'episode' by the father to the child that everyone living around here can hear- well, it takes place outside half the time. My son was not really a difficult child at that age so I'm not sure how much of this might be 'normal' frustrations for a difficult child's parents or how much is due to not having better knowledge about parenting a difficult child, things that people entering 'the warrior parent life' would be able to learn quickly and should learn quickly.
Iniitially I thought I'd wait and see if the Mom talks to me again and opens up a little more about her son, that maybe I'd suggest The Explosive Child, therapy, or something. Now I'm just not sure...but it bothers me to hear this young difficult child being yelled at that way so often. It seems to always be about the father telling him it's time to come in the house, why did difficult child let the dog out, come in and eat dinner, typical childhood things that a difficult child can turn into utter chaos. However, yelling more and more isn't the answer. I guess I''m wondering if there is a better answer when you have a young difficult child?
I almost want to recommend this site to the mom, but then...is it selfish not to want to share my 'private' space with my neighbors?
What is bothering me is that about every 3 days there is a major yelling 'episode' by the father to the child that everyone living around here can hear- well, it takes place outside half the time. My son was not really a difficult child at that age so I'm not sure how much of this might be 'normal' frustrations for a difficult child's parents or how much is due to not having better knowledge about parenting a difficult child, things that people entering 'the warrior parent life' would be able to learn quickly and should learn quickly.
Iniitially I thought I'd wait and see if the Mom talks to me again and opens up a little more about her son, that maybe I'd suggest The Explosive Child, therapy, or something. Now I'm just not sure...but it bothers me to hear this young difficult child being yelled at that way so often. It seems to always be about the father telling him it's time to come in the house, why did difficult child let the dog out, come in and eat dinner, typical childhood things that a difficult child can turn into utter chaos. However, yelling more and more isn't the answer. I guess I''m wondering if there is a better answer when you have a young difficult child?
I almost want to recommend this site to the mom, but then...is it selfish not to want to share my 'private' space with my neighbors?