toreapartwomanoftwo
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After many months struggling with difficult child violent behavior, he was driven to a Boarding School in Nevada last October. It was the most painful desition that I had taken in my whole life, it was horrible. I had to hire a company to take him away, they came at 8:00 AM when he was sleeping. I kiss him good bye, my kiss woke him up and I just told him, "this people is driving you to a Boarding School", and I left the house. I never cried so much before, I didn't want to come back home because didn't want to see it empty without him. I didn't have any other choice. I did everything I could, I tried all the resources possible, and nothing worked. difficult child did so much damage, he took over the first floor, my 12 year old daughter was terrified of him, even the dog, once very close to them. I called the police soooo many times, he was arrested twice, once for taking my car and crashed it and once for destruction of property (my property, my house) and put on probation and house arrest, all this didn't stop him, I am very sure he still managed to used drugs, I sure hated him because that wasn't my son, I didn't know where my real son went.
All the stress took a tol in the relationship with my husband and he decided to leave, I call it runing away. Me and easy child were in so much pain, but all that worth it. difficult child writes to me once a week, he was before behind in credits and now in about 4 months he will graduate HS. Of course he wants to come home and he is working very hard in school and in the program. I know he has change for now, but the Representative who I talk to, told me very honest that most of the students go back to their old ways, because they are still growing, but is not as bad as before (Of course they need to graduate in the program) which It'd take about 2 years to graduate.
I think my son is back now, the one that I had before and sure I want him back, but I am worry to take him out and seeing going to his old ways. He will be 17years old in May. He is planning for his future after HS.
Now my question is: should I leave him there until he is 18 or until he finish HS? besides the school is expensive and he wants to go to College after, HHHAAGG!
Put him in was the best think that I did for him but the most painful, we are relax at home now , but before was terrible.
I am finally allowed to visit him in April, the last time that I saw him was in October 3d and I have talk to him twice over the phone.
I don't regret that I sent him away, I would do it over and over again, so to all the parents out there: take the pain to send your difficult child away, give yourself some peace and one day your difficult child will be thankful to you because you did it. difficult child tells me now (THANK YOU MOM FOR GIVING MY LIFE BACK)
All the stress took a tol in the relationship with my husband and he decided to leave, I call it runing away. Me and easy child were in so much pain, but all that worth it. difficult child writes to me once a week, he was before behind in credits and now in about 4 months he will graduate HS. Of course he wants to come home and he is working very hard in school and in the program. I know he has change for now, but the Representative who I talk to, told me very honest that most of the students go back to their old ways, because they are still growing, but is not as bad as before (Of course they need to graduate in the program) which It'd take about 2 years to graduate.
I think my son is back now, the one that I had before and sure I want him back, but I am worry to take him out and seeing going to his old ways. He will be 17years old in May. He is planning for his future after HS.
Now my question is: should I leave him there until he is 18 or until he finish HS? besides the school is expensive and he wants to go to College after, HHHAAGG!
Put him in was the best think that I did for him but the most painful, we are relax at home now , but before was terrible.
I am finally allowed to visit him in April, the last time that I saw him was in October 3d and I have talk to him twice over the phone.
I don't regret that I sent him away, I would do it over and over again, so to all the parents out there: take the pain to send your difficult child away, give yourself some peace and one day your difficult child will be thankful to you because you did it. difficult child tells me now (THANK YOU MOM FOR GIVING MY LIFE BACK)