mybleedingheart
New Member
Hello everyone,
I am at my wits end I have a son who is almost 20 and since he was 13 there have been many problems with him he has adhd and has used weed pot since he was 13 he also escalated to some other drugs when he was groomed by a drug dealer at 16 ,after all this he has done many awful things to smashing the house up to hitting me I could go on for hours but I wont , anyway he lives now with my step dad as he will not accept rules but I see him most days as he hates being alone , I bought him a beautiful dog at christmas and he seems to really love it , he dosent work and he is on disability for his depression and adhd etc he spends 6oo pounds a month on weed - pot and will do without food etc just to get this , his house is a mess i am down there cleaning taking food almost every other day , I am heartbroken and I have tried everything from therapy to addaction to taking him out of the uk I just do not know where to turn I think the weed is making him mentally ill but he does not see it and gets aggressive with me , he has just had a huge fight with his toxic girllfriend and it just never seems to stop , he wants to live independently but to me he dosent pay rent using it for weed and I am left to sort it all out all the time after 7 years i just feel I cant do this anymore he is so used me putting things right for him , He wont do anything he wont go to appointments or anything but if anything goes wrong it is always my fault I have been in some situations that you would not wish on your worst enemy I have seen things that have left me in shock for life
please someone offer me advice hes made it clear he wont stop smoking weed but in the meantime my heart is in pieces
Jo x
I am at my wits end I have a son who is almost 20 and since he was 13 there have been many problems with him he has adhd and has used weed pot since he was 13 he also escalated to some other drugs when he was groomed by a drug dealer at 16 ,after all this he has done many awful things to smashing the house up to hitting me I could go on for hours but I wont , anyway he lives now with my step dad as he will not accept rules but I see him most days as he hates being alone , I bought him a beautiful dog at christmas and he seems to really love it , he dosent work and he is on disability for his depression and adhd etc he spends 6oo pounds a month on weed - pot and will do without food etc just to get this , his house is a mess i am down there cleaning taking food almost every other day , I am heartbroken and I have tried everything from therapy to addaction to taking him out of the uk I just do not know where to turn I think the weed is making him mentally ill but he does not see it and gets aggressive with me , he has just had a huge fight with his toxic girllfriend and it just never seems to stop , he wants to live independently but to me he dosent pay rent using it for weed and I am left to sort it all out all the time after 7 years i just feel I cant do this anymore he is so used me putting things right for him , He wont do anything he wont go to appointments or anything but if anything goes wrong it is always my fault I have been in some situations that you would not wish on your worst enemy I have seen things that have left me in shock for life
please someone offer me advice hes made it clear he wont stop smoking weed but in the meantime my heart is in pieces
Jo x