Slsh,
I was going to post yesterday about how you and thank you were doing. Sorry I was having my own little crisis. Sorry to see he's AWOL, but sorrier to see the familiar - it's more the norm than not comment. I so so so understand that. I feel for you. Hate that I even know why that comment is comforting in an odd sort of way.
In the mean time - put a babysitter or net nanny on your computer. When he does come to access MS? You'll know everything he said, wrote, did, typed....complete. They are an invisible program that only you know is on your easy child.
Dude will totally erase the history every time he's on my computer - it infuriates me not because I would spy (that's a lie) but mostly because it wipes out my email passwords to the site and other places....and I have to go get my book, type them in etc.
I tried putting him on as a USER account....OMG....he thought this meant I got 40 megs and HE got 40 megs of ram.....He put programs on my computer that (lets just say I NEVER want to see ever again) and it took 30 minutes JUST to open my desktop. Once I eliminated the song files and song download places and pictures? I had my computer back and deleted his user acct.
Hope this helps a little -
My heart hurts for you. I know this is such a hard time of year for our kids and a lot of people. Beaucoup stress. I do see a similar mother maturation in your posts that I recognize in my own posts lately....let him fall, consequences, his choices....all those good words.
Wish I didn't have to know any of them to survive either.
Many hugs.....
it does come to mind though - that there could be in the history an occult meeting site or posting board. If you wanted to - you could find where he goes, and read what he's posting with or without his knowledge.
I know a mom who was worried about what her daughter was doing in MS. So she found a picture of a really hot guy, created a web page with similar interests as her daughter under the guise of being this hotbod guy and the daughter emailed the "guy" (her MOM) and now the Mom is on her daughters contacts. I think this is hillarious. She has complete access to her web page. ALL the pictures, ALL the postings....Know what I mean??