difficult child and I started with a new therapist a couple of months ago. We see him every 2 weeks and when I first spoke with him, he spilled out everything about the best counseling approach when BiPolar (BP)/mood cycling is involved with an adolescent. What he said was consistent with what I had read in various books and with what is recommended on the bpkids website, so I thought we had a winner here. No other counselor has even come close to saying any of these things. We are still seeing one other counselor, but this is being tapered off- for one thing, he is getting ready to go on a 4 week vacation. The idea was to gradually transition. Anyway, so far, this newer counselor really hasn't started with ANYTHING that he mentioned. I don't know how common this is in most places, but it has happened several times with us here. Now, I do understand that it can take a while to move into things, but if he says in one seesion that the next session we are going to discuss X, Y, and Z and he will give use each mood cycling charts to fill out, shouldn't at least one of these things happen within the next 2 sessions? Is it my responsibity to establish the plan and keep it on track? And, the other thing that really bugs difficult child and me both- the guy wants to talk a whole lot about his work he does as a substance abuse counselor for young adults. Well, I didn't seek out a substance abuse counselor. I don't mind him letting us know this, but difficult child and I both noticed that he seems to almost brag about it and wants to relay horror stories about heroin addicts and such to difficult child every session. I don't mind difficult child getting a jolt of reality occassionally about the dangers of drugs, but we aren't there to spend 1/3 of the session talking about another one of his patients who OD'd. Is there a nice way for me to tell him this and asked him to stay focused on why we are there? Any suggestions? I'm either really bad at "interviewing" potential counselors, or, I've also wondered, if it has something to do with asking specifically for a male when there is a real shortage of male counselors around here, so we have just been getting "male" and not one who really does have experience with the issues we need addressing. Or, is it that what is written in the books and recommended on the bpkids website is too idealistic to expect?