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Hi all, I am so blessed to find this website. It's refreshing to know that I am not alone in the challenges I am facing with my 3 1/2 year old boy. My concern is with his aggressiveness at home AND at preschool. He has multiple tantrums/meltdowns daily, some of which are violent. He will knock over chairs/tables, throw things, hit and kick. When he is put in time-out, he scratches me and screams things like "Shut Up!" or "I hate you!" We will put him in his room and he will just about kick the door down. Most of these tantrums come out of not getting something that he wants. They usually only last about 5-30 minutes. He also has a lot of frustrations tantrums when he can't figure out how to do something--this is his main issue at school.
He also is mean to the family dog, constantly pulling at her tail or hitting and kicking her. We have been through 2 daycares that have told us that they are not equipped to handle his aggressiveness. As far as I know, he doesn't hurt other children, just his teachers. I am at my wits end with this child!
Here is some background info on him:
He was a full-term baby, no issues at birth. He was colicky and cried all the time for the first few months. He hit all of his milestones on time if not before, except for speech. We found out that he could not hear because of fluid in his ears, so he had tubes inserted when he was 18 months old. After that, he began talking up a storm and now he advanced in his speech. At 11 months old, he started banging his head on the floor out of frustration. This continued until he was about 2 years old. Now, when he is out of control, he will bite himself or slap himself in the face. I am very concerned about his self-destructive behavior. He can be kind and loving at times. He is also very active! He rarely plays with his toys. He always plays with in-animate objects like bobby pins, straws, and really odd stuff. He has always had an eye for detail..if we put something new in his room, he could recognize it right away or say we got a new candle in the living room--he would notice it immediately. His memory is ridiculous! He remembers things that happened a year ago! He can watch a movie one time and remember the smallest detail.
He is just an oddball! He seems to be advanced in everything but he frustrates SO easily and just loses it. He loves to socialize with other kids at the park, etc. But when they won't do what he wants, he can't handle it.
Anyway, sorry this is SO long. Do you guys think this is typical behavior for his age or could it be something else. by the way, my husband has ADHD and I have been treated for depression when I was younger. No other mental illnesses diagnosed, however I do believe that I have social anxiety disorder. Thanks all
He also is mean to the family dog, constantly pulling at her tail or hitting and kicking her. We have been through 2 daycares that have told us that they are not equipped to handle his aggressiveness. As far as I know, he doesn't hurt other children, just his teachers. I am at my wits end with this child!
Here is some background info on him:
He was a full-term baby, no issues at birth. He was colicky and cried all the time for the first few months. He hit all of his milestones on time if not before, except for speech. We found out that he could not hear because of fluid in his ears, so he had tubes inserted when he was 18 months old. After that, he began talking up a storm and now he advanced in his speech. At 11 months old, he started banging his head on the floor out of frustration. This continued until he was about 2 years old. Now, when he is out of control, he will bite himself or slap himself in the face. I am very concerned about his self-destructive behavior. He can be kind and loving at times. He is also very active! He rarely plays with his toys. He always plays with in-animate objects like bobby pins, straws, and really odd stuff. He has always had an eye for detail..if we put something new in his room, he could recognize it right away or say we got a new candle in the living room--he would notice it immediately. His memory is ridiculous! He remembers things that happened a year ago! He can watch a movie one time and remember the smallest detail.
He is just an oddball! He seems to be advanced in everything but he frustrates SO easily and just loses it. He loves to socialize with other kids at the park, etc. But when they won't do what he wants, he can't handle it.
Anyway, sorry this is SO long. Do you guys think this is typical behavior for his age or could it be something else. by the way, my husband has ADHD and I have been treated for depression when I was younger. No other mental illnesses diagnosed, however I do believe that I have social anxiety disorder. Thanks all