My ds will be 9 in two weeks and has ADHD and learning disabilities. We've had bouts of explosive behavior since he was a toddler, but that has been helped by his Adderall medication. Now that he's growing older, his (what I call) black rages have become rarer. I guess that's why yesterday just hit me out of nowhere. He can go from perfectly fine to raging on a dime and that's what happened yesterday. Our whole family was in the van and he attacked husband while he was driving because he had been told he could not take a toy with him in the car. In the process of trying to hold him back so husband would not wreck the car, we were all punched, kicked, scratched bitten and cursed at. I ended up in the back seat with him until we could get to our destination (sister in law's house). In the end the tantrum lasted for 4 hours and full of screaming, cursing, threats and aggression.
I admit, he's been doing so well I've gotten a little lax on the B-Mod. Also, he tends to be more likely to rage when he's having a growth spurt. It's just so disheartening because he's been doing so well for so long that I began to hope we were moving past this and then we have what may well have been the worst rage ever.
To top it all off, when it was over, husband tells me he doesn't think he's cut out to be a dad and basically has left me feeling like he's totally checked out and left me to deal with this by myself. I just feel frustrated and sick and worried about the effect on my other two kids seeing these kind of confrontations.
I admit, he's been doing so well I've gotten a little lax on the B-Mod. Also, he tends to be more likely to rage when he's having a growth spurt. It's just so disheartening because he's been doing so well for so long that I began to hope we were moving past this and then we have what may well have been the worst rage ever.
To top it all off, when it was over, husband tells me he doesn't think he's cut out to be a dad and basically has left me feeling like he's totally checked out and left me to deal with this by myself. I just feel frustrated and sick and worried about the effect on my other two kids seeing these kind of confrontations.