Lordofmylife05
New Member
Hello everyone! I stumbled upon this forum doing a search for oppositional defiant disorder.
Here's some background- my son is 10 years old. I've noticed over the past year and a half that he believes he's co-equal with adults -- he is an only child and I have always been a single mother. I had really begun to notice when my boyfriend and I started dating 1 1/2 years ago. My boyfriend would tell me, for example, after babysitting him for any length of time, "Your son really doesn't listen to me." My son will argue with any adult, at any time, about any subject.
I put him in a private Christian school at the beginning of the year because I wanted a smaller classroom setting and we are Christians and I believe that the values I have been teaching him at home could be reinforced at school.
But this is when I really began to see his lack of social skills. The school he came from, he had life long friends (and the school is literally right across the street) and his teacher began to notice that he intentionally annoys his classmates -- making strange noises, getting into their faces, etc. -- and he was struggling making friends.
I ended up taking him to a Christian therapist. She diagnosed him with ADHD/ODD. I struggle with the ADHD part -- mainly because he's not hyper, doesn't have trouble focusing, gets good grades, etc., but after doing research, I DEFINITELY see the ODD in him.
I can't really afford counseling at this point, so I am looking for others in my situation because I'm at a loss for how to handle this. I do feel alone, isolated and I'm at the end of my rope.
Maybe I just need a hug and someone to tell me it's going to be ok.
Thank you for listening,
Kerri
Here's some background- my son is 10 years old. I've noticed over the past year and a half that he believes he's co-equal with adults -- he is an only child and I have always been a single mother. I had really begun to notice when my boyfriend and I started dating 1 1/2 years ago. My boyfriend would tell me, for example, after babysitting him for any length of time, "Your son really doesn't listen to me." My son will argue with any adult, at any time, about any subject.
I put him in a private Christian school at the beginning of the year because I wanted a smaller classroom setting and we are Christians and I believe that the values I have been teaching him at home could be reinforced at school.
But this is when I really began to see his lack of social skills. The school he came from, he had life long friends (and the school is literally right across the street) and his teacher began to notice that he intentionally annoys his classmates -- making strange noises, getting into their faces, etc. -- and he was struggling making friends.
I ended up taking him to a Christian therapist. She diagnosed him with ADHD/ODD. I struggle with the ADHD part -- mainly because he's not hyper, doesn't have trouble focusing, gets good grades, etc., but after doing research, I DEFINITELY see the ODD in him.
I can't really afford counseling at this point, so I am looking for others in my situation because I'm at a loss for how to handle this. I do feel alone, isolated and I'm at the end of my rope.
Maybe I just need a hug and someone to tell me it's going to be ok.
Thank you for listening,
Kerri