Hi all, I'm new here and hoping that I can find help and support. I have an 11yo girl who has been diagnosed with Pervasive Developmental Disorder (PDD)-not otherwise specified and ODD, both within the past two years. She also likely has some sort of generalized anxiety disorder. She has always been a difficult child but the ODD like behaviors have reared their ugly head in the past year or two and are only getting worse. I am not convinced of any of her diagnosis and often wonder is she may have some sort of personality disorder. She is most oppositional and mean to me than others and I often feel that she is punishing me for something and I'm not sure what or why. I have a 3 year old who is a doll and who gives me hope that I am not a terrible parent but I must admit, I feel like a terrible parent much of the time because I cannot manage my daughter. Because she was diagnosed late, I am still new to this whole process of coming to terms with her issues and am still searching for the "why?". I know it probably doesn't matter in the grand scheme of things and I need to move past this but I need to learn to stop blaming myself. I am just so baffled with her behavior. My stomach turns on a regular basis by how unloving, selfish and mean she is around the clock. Her birth father was very abusive- physically, verbally and emotionally. He was very abusive while she was in the womb and I was under a lot of stress during my pregnancy with her. The abuse continued when she was born and I left him for good when she was 3 months old. Unfortunately, he is still a part of her life as an every other weekend parent and she gets very spoiled at his house, which I think fuels her anger towards me all the more. Her birth father has obvious symptoms of a personality disorder. My question is if anyone else has experience like this of their children being subjected to stress/an abusive environment as an unborn child or very young infant and if you attribute this to some of your child's problems.