Believe it or not the tweedles turn 18 in 47 days. Remember I joined when they were around 9? How, why, when did you decide how involved you would be once your difficult children hit 18? Because of their disability status & their CADI waiver they are automatically vulnerable adults. Children's mental health case manager has already contacted & the tweedles have been assigned adult mental health managers. kt continues to allow herself to be re-victimized on a regular basis (her GAF has sunk to an all time low of 23). wm is as explosive as ever. Saying the above, I'm being encouraged to put my home up for sale & move closer to family as the only reason(s) I stayed here after husband died was the tweedles. The thought of packing up & moving after being in my little house since '96 is overwhelming/exhausting. How involved are you? As my twins really don't want me in their lives (at least that's the impression I've gotten) would you pack up & move? Do your difficult children continue to drag you into their daily trauma/dramas or are you able to say no?