caregiverkc
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Hello everyone. I'm new to this site and actually new to talking to anyone outside of my immediate family about my son and his "issues". I can use all the advice I can get and hopefully something will work, besides the not so great advice family members give.
My husband and I have a 6 year old son and a brand new 5 week old little girl at home. Our son for the most part is a great kid but 2 years ago he started having behavioral issues. The last straw was when he almost had me arrested at his Karate tournament because a parent told a police officer at the tournament that I was "abusing" my son when I pushed him away from me when he was punching and kicking me in the bathroom. I don't know if any other parent has gone through that, and I would never wish it on anyone because that was the worst feeling in the world. They took him away from me and took me outside where everyone could see what was going on and basically told me that I was not allowed to do that and I was wrong. As if you wouldn't already feel horrible, embarrassed and quite frankly furious with the situation the officer that was "talking" to my son awarded him by getting him a drink and a snack. They then asked him if he wanted them to walk with him to get his dad so he didn't have to be alone with his mom. Furious. For the next few weeks all I could do was cry and wonder what I had done to him to make him act that way.
2 years have gone by since that day, but it still is a burned image in my head. How do you control a kid when he acts that way? I have had him try to jump out of our car when I was driving, he has punched, kicked, bitten and recently has banged my head into the wall and oven door when I have tried to restrain him when he gets that out of control.
He has been diagnosed with ADD and a mood disorder and is taking Abilify and Clonidine for his diagnosis. As a parent you feel horrible, especially when you are diagnosed with bi-polar and all you can do is blame yourself for what is wrong with him.
The reason why I am on here now is because he has recently gotten worse and nothing my husband or myself does is working with him. I NEED HELP!!! I'm tired of the same excuses my parents and family members give me, "he's just a boy", "you spoil him to much", "he'll grow out of it", and my favorite "just pray about it and everything will be ok". I have and now I need a little bit of help from other parents that may be going through the same thing as we are.
Any advice on how to deal with this would be appreciated. We are at our wits ends with trying just about everything and nothing is working.
Thanks for reading my rambling..
Holly
My husband and I have a 6 year old son and a brand new 5 week old little girl at home. Our son for the most part is a great kid but 2 years ago he started having behavioral issues. The last straw was when he almost had me arrested at his Karate tournament because a parent told a police officer at the tournament that I was "abusing" my son when I pushed him away from me when he was punching and kicking me in the bathroom. I don't know if any other parent has gone through that, and I would never wish it on anyone because that was the worst feeling in the world. They took him away from me and took me outside where everyone could see what was going on and basically told me that I was not allowed to do that and I was wrong. As if you wouldn't already feel horrible, embarrassed and quite frankly furious with the situation the officer that was "talking" to my son awarded him by getting him a drink and a snack. They then asked him if he wanted them to walk with him to get his dad so he didn't have to be alone with his mom. Furious. For the next few weeks all I could do was cry and wonder what I had done to him to make him act that way.
2 years have gone by since that day, but it still is a burned image in my head. How do you control a kid when he acts that way? I have had him try to jump out of our car when I was driving, he has punched, kicked, bitten and recently has banged my head into the wall and oven door when I have tried to restrain him when he gets that out of control.
He has been diagnosed with ADD and a mood disorder and is taking Abilify and Clonidine for his diagnosis. As a parent you feel horrible, especially when you are diagnosed with bi-polar and all you can do is blame yourself for what is wrong with him.
The reason why I am on here now is because he has recently gotten worse and nothing my husband or myself does is working with him. I NEED HELP!!! I'm tired of the same excuses my parents and family members give me, "he's just a boy", "you spoil him to much", "he'll grow out of it", and my favorite "just pray about it and everything will be ok". I have and now I need a little bit of help from other parents that may be going through the same thing as we are.
Any advice on how to deal with this would be appreciated. We are at our wits ends with trying just about everything and nothing is working.
Thanks for reading my rambling..
Holly