My husband has a 6 yr old son from his first marriage that lives with us full time. We have taken difficult child to see a counselor who referred him to a Neuropysch, very quickly the Neuropysch diagnosis'd him with ODD and stated there was alot more under the surface. Outwardly with first impression, he charms everyone. He is very smart and very manipulative. It's insane for a 6 yr old to be this scary. He targets those smaller or less dominant than him, and only provokes those that are bigger when he feels he is safe or protected. He threatens to destroy the posessions of the other kids in the house, or to hurt them if they defy him or upset him. He has already hit his 2 yr old sister and kicked our 5 yr old in the stomach. He openly defies the teacher at school, repeatedly refusing to do as told. The teacher states its almost as if he is trying to test his authority. He takes absolutley NO responsibility for anything he does and always blames everyone else. Its always someone elses fault. He has forged notes from the teacher, stolen from the school, and the other children in the house and has been caught stealing snacks and chocolate. He is a compulsive liar, and will lie about anything (even things that wouldnt get him in trouble) We recently found out he has been lying to his bio mom, telling her we beat him, don't let him eat dinner with us, or don't let him eat the good food (only leftovers), that we leave him with babysitters when we go somewhere fun. *We have 5 kids total, we couldnt afford to hire a sitter every time he's in trouble LOL* The doctor is waiting on the insurance to approve the medications they want to prescribe. But I'm at my wits end with this, he has openly stated he does not want me or the kids there (any of them), I have tried everything to help him. I praise him when he does good things and tell him he's a good boy. I put a reward system into place that all the kids follow, It works great with the other kids, he just does not seem to care. We've stipped his room, tried time outs (long ones too, due to him misbehaving while already there), early bedtime, chores, and there have been occassions where husband had spanked him due to him purposely hurting one of the other kids and telling us he didnt care. Nothing seems to work. And even as long as this post is, ive typed and deleted and retyped and edited and tried to be brief but it only skims the top of his behavior issues.