DDD
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Turns out that house we contracted for in November with a closing on December 28th is causing problems. Turns out that it is a short sale. Turns out that the listing agent "can not" get Bank of America to actually send the acceptance with a signed contract...just notification that the offer has been accepted. SIGH! easy child/difficult child (aka difficult child#1) has really done a great job of being patient. "Patience" is not what ADHD and Traumatic Brain Injury (TBI) people thrive on. Groan. I am neither of those things plus a retired Realtor and I am "antsy".
So, guys, here is where I need support. I am the "representative payee" for his disability income. He has been amazingly good about me having control. on the other hand he is flat out sick of driving a very worn out F150 that husband and I own and so........yikes!......he has been looking for a Chrysler 300 that he can buy.I have done ALL my tricks. Tomorrow he heads to So. Fl. to look at four cars that he can afford. I love this "son of a gun" with my whole heart. I "know" that he is going nuts with no house and no car. I am so blankin nervous about tomorrow.
He was eager for me to spend the day with him and his girlfriend "checking out the cars" but I honestly don't feel well this week. He has asked GFGmom to drive him South. OMG...yeah, I know I am being dramatic but literally my belly is churning. I am so torn between letting him make a decision as "an adult" and hesitant because I know his weaknesses. I actually had to tell him "Son if you make a poor choice I will resign as your representative payee because you may end up with-o a house and that would break my heart". Eh Gods. That doesn't even "sound" healthy to me.
Could you guys who "know" him send support that he doesn't buy something that jeopardizes his security via home ownership. Yikes. I can't describe how nervous I am. Thanks. DDD
So, guys, here is where I need support. I am the "representative payee" for his disability income. He has been amazingly good about me having control. on the other hand he is flat out sick of driving a very worn out F150 that husband and I own and so........yikes!......he has been looking for a Chrysler 300 that he can buy.I have done ALL my tricks. Tomorrow he heads to So. Fl. to look at four cars that he can afford. I love this "son of a gun" with my whole heart. I "know" that he is going nuts with no house and no car. I am so blankin nervous about tomorrow.
He was eager for me to spend the day with him and his girlfriend "checking out the cars" but I honestly don't feel well this week. He has asked GFGmom to drive him South. OMG...yeah, I know I am being dramatic but literally my belly is churning. I am so torn between letting him make a decision as "an adult" and hesitant because I know his weaknesses. I actually had to tell him "Son if you make a poor choice I will resign as your representative payee because you may end up with-o a house and that would break my heart". Eh Gods. That doesn't even "sound" healthy to me.
Could you guys who "know" him send support that he doesn't buy something that jeopardizes his security via home ownership. Yikes. I can't describe how nervous I am. Thanks. DDD