So now husband is saying he wants to go to meetings at the school. I think it is good (maybe) that he wants to be involved, but at the same time it makes me nervous. He has the attitude that it is not difficult child's fault that he fights, that if kids pick on him it is because he is small for his age and if he gets in a fight then that is what happens, neither good nor bad. It is what he went thru so his son will go thru it. He thinks I blow how difficult child acts out of proportion, untill difficult child acts that way to husband and then he wants to change his medications cuz they aren't working. husband is a difficult child, and it is so obvious sometimes. He is so wishy washy, I really don't want him having much to do with the IEP and school stuff. He has too much say as a parent and knows too little. I explained yet again (he has some short term memory loss) what an IEP was and why we wanted it. However, I think it would be good for him to start going to psychiatrist appointment's, and this next therapist appointment may be for us parents, so maybe I will make a point of seeing if he wants to go. difficult child has a multitude of appts this week, psychiatrist, therapist and Occupational Therapist (OT). husband has to take him to Occupational Therapist (OT), but I think I will see if husband wants to go to psychiatrist and therapist appointment with us/me. It really scares me some, as if he is in the right mood he can just totally blow off difficult child's behaviors as just being a boy, and it makes me angry and sometimes even makes me look stupid. I guess I have been doing this on my own for so long (the appts and all communication) that the idea of sharing this is kinda freaky. Now watch, I will ask husband and he will bail out and not want to go, and I will have posted and freaked out over nothing.