Hi Ladies –
I had another physical altercation with my son last night. He was being a jerk and laughing in my face so I tried to pull him out of the car and he slapped/hit me in the face. I thought for sure I was going to have a black eye today but I didn’t. Maybe it’s my fault for trying to pull him out of the car, I don’t know, but I have to figure out something quick.
He has been violent with me and my 13 year old daughter before so I sent him to live with his dad. Him and his dad got into a physical fight and because my ex left marks on him he was arrested for felony child abuse. The DA dropped the charges when he heard about the issues with my son.
He’s been back with me for a few weeks now. We’ve had some issues but yesterday was the first time it became violent again. He is currently suspended from school for 5 days for fighting.
My question for you guys is…what now? Here is what I’ve tried so far…
1. Weekly therapy
2. Very thorough psychiatric evaluation which showed severe depression, ADHD, attachment disorder & ODD; he is at high risk for a full conduct disorder
3. Scared Straight program, which he found funny.
4. Working with a psychiatrist and trying several medications
5. Teen support groups
I have tried to find boarding schools but I can’t afford them. Our therapist told us that he doesn’t do well with punishments or scare tactics (she thinks the scared straight program did more harm than good)
I’ve gotten some good advice from you guys on here but I can’t even get to the point of being able to use it.
I don’t know what to do, what are my options if he’s been violent several times to several family members and I can’t afford boarding school?
I am not at all close to putting him in foster care or something; how can I? He already has attachment issues, I can’t imagine “giving him away”.
I like to believe underneath it all he’s a good kid who is hurting so much inside but he will be okay in the end, we just have to make it through the teenage years. How can I turn my back on my child that is so damaged and needs help?
Can anyone help me with options?
by the way…I was physically abused by his father and I feel like I am still playing the victim role in domestic violence but this is my son…
I had another physical altercation with my son last night. He was being a jerk and laughing in my face so I tried to pull him out of the car and he slapped/hit me in the face. I thought for sure I was going to have a black eye today but I didn’t. Maybe it’s my fault for trying to pull him out of the car, I don’t know, but I have to figure out something quick.
He has been violent with me and my 13 year old daughter before so I sent him to live with his dad. Him and his dad got into a physical fight and because my ex left marks on him he was arrested for felony child abuse. The DA dropped the charges when he heard about the issues with my son.
He’s been back with me for a few weeks now. We’ve had some issues but yesterday was the first time it became violent again. He is currently suspended from school for 5 days for fighting.
My question for you guys is…what now? Here is what I’ve tried so far…
1. Weekly therapy
2. Very thorough psychiatric evaluation which showed severe depression, ADHD, attachment disorder & ODD; he is at high risk for a full conduct disorder
3. Scared Straight program, which he found funny.
4. Working with a psychiatrist and trying several medications
5. Teen support groups
I have tried to find boarding schools but I can’t afford them. Our therapist told us that he doesn’t do well with punishments or scare tactics (she thinks the scared straight program did more harm than good)
I’ve gotten some good advice from you guys on here but I can’t even get to the point of being able to use it.
I don’t know what to do, what are my options if he’s been violent several times to several family members and I can’t afford boarding school?
I am not at all close to putting him in foster care or something; how can I? He already has attachment issues, I can’t imagine “giving him away”.
I like to believe underneath it all he’s a good kid who is hurting so much inside but he will be okay in the end, we just have to make it through the teenage years. How can I turn my back on my child that is so damaged and needs help?
Can anyone help me with options?
by the way…I was physically abused by his father and I feel like I am still playing the victim role in domestic violence but this is my son…