I feel very drained and frustrated after a rough day yesterday...with CONSTANT opposition!!! What I just REALLY DON"T GET is this: How can my son be so well behaved for a few days and then suddenly just become oppositional? I've been reading about this ODD and they keep on saying that they 'can't help it' or haven't got control over it but how on earth can my child one day decide that 'today I'm going to do my homework perfet (surely this is a choice of will?)...Or some mornings he will get up all by himself and put his school clothes on and is motivated to go to school....(again..he had to make that concious choice?) and even be nice and cooperative, giving compliments, ect. Then, like yesterday he suddenly doesn't want to do homework, oppose me in EVERY REQUEST...just saying...no....I don't want to...why do I need to do a,b,c? ect. This after we had a great day, no explosions, no nothing! Surely, I also get my bad days...but I choose to be nice, because of possible consequences. Surely he needs to realize that some behavior will cause him to loose friends or have a poor relationship with his family? I feel like just leaving him...if he doesn't want to bath, well then he must smell bad (he doesn't really care!), if he doesn't do his homework, he needs to get into troubble at school. Am I not taking to many reasponsibility for his behavior, it's his live...surely he needs to learn about consequenses? He even told me the other day that he wanted to be rude now but he CHOOSE to behave nicely! I meen having ODD isn't a chemical inbalance or like getting epilepsy, it's behaviour...And he has enough frontal lobe to think and make a decision? Am I totally of the tracks here? How far do you just 'let go' because shame he has ODD?.....Soory, I know this sounds terrible but I'm really so frustrated with all this! Maybe he doesn't even have ODD! Maybe he is just a very clever, gifted(been confirmed) boy who manipulates his environment to get what he wants?